When you say "me" what do you mean? Who is you, who is this "I", let's try to understand.
What can you say about yourself? Stop for a minute and think about it. Give yourself a definition. Do not be too philosophizing and think of complex designs. Try to define yourself in one word. "I am ...". I - the person. Well, frankly, indisputable statement. But what it gives you, what it tells you yourself or others? What do you have two arms and two legs. That you are omnivorous. That you possess intelligence. Good, but not too much, do not you think?
This game in the definition of itself can be continued. Who else are you ? "I - a woman / man" - here is, added another item. "I - a parent," "I - ...". The list goes on. Try it. How much do you have such determinations for yourself?
So, you are - all that is above. Each of these definitions imply some special features. From these onesis in many ways made up your unique and exclusive. Let's try to take the next step. Look at each of these "definitions". What it carries? What kind of information? For example, as I said, "person" - this, at least, bipedal mammal. More and reasonable, like. So, it turns out that for every image is a specific set of descriptions, but if you're talking about yourself, self-descriptions. Each of these characters has a certain set of features and, importantly, behaves in a certain way. Worker works, parent is raising a child, the driver is driving, and so on.
... You somehow identify with these characters and live the way they should live. This - at most (but not less than) are your roles. And these roles you try out myself. Some culling, some are leaving yourself. You draw yourself like a picture which shows who you are. And this inner picture helps you to be yourself. And the extra touches - it's your development milestones.
So, the picture shows who you are. And the artist - is you too. And no one else. notice this.
That is, of course, someone can to some extent affect you, and your picture will change something, but to apply or not to apply the new touches - it's up to you and no one else. In the end, your whole life - is the process of drawing pictures. Something to erase something to finish. But pencil and eraser are in your hand ...
This picture occurs in obedience to your wishes, short-term and premeditated. Sometimes it is the mood - and you suddenly throw a few extra features. And sometimes you take a long time of thinking, it is worth to once again touch the canvas and what you exectly need to fix in it or what to add. And what has been drawn, mind you, change yourself. You find yourself in a strange way connected with your own creation. You are becoming it. Those features that appear in the portrait, become your features ...
Let's go back to our game, we started with, remember? So, there are a number of roles. Do you accept them, sometimes consciously, sometimes not. And they become part of you. Knowledge of these roles, can tell you about yourself.
You - are, in a sense, a set of your own self-perceptions of ourselves.
You know your capabilities and limitations, advantages and disadvantages, isn't it? And this is the description - the most accurate portrait of yours. Who knows you better than you know yourself? The others? But they judge you just by your appearance. Your behavior - is just one side of the coin. After all, you yourself understand more what you're doing and why. And what not to do.
But know everything about yourself , probably is impossible. Or at least very difficult. You can tell only what you know and realize yourself because only that you realize himself, right?
For example, if you do not notice the fact that you are often greedy, you can not tell to yourself you can not say "I am mean." Sometimes it happens that a person knows that he is greedy and behaves accordingly. According to his representations about itself. As if he himself - that's what he thinks about himself. This is true, of course, not just about disadvantages. If you, for example, do not fully realize your potential, you too will not manage to tell anyone about it, even to yourself. The point here is not to boast. Quite different. In getting to know yourself ...
.. Because such knowledge has a special power. When you can judge yourself, anyway, you kind of get under the influence of these words, these judgments. They can help and hinder you, it all depends on the situation, what is going on in your life. The more roles you have, the more resources for self-description, the richer selection of what can be done.
People - being oh, what a difficult and ambiguous. Contradictory, we'd say. Sometimes it is difficult to predict its behavior. And even my own. So we create for ourselves description, which laid our properties and help us be ourselves. Otherwise too difficult. "I - a young and healthy, so I'll let the bus sit to the sick and the old people." This is quite natural and even necessary for the organization of at least some of our lives. Knowing what else you would expect from yourself certain actions in certain situations. Knowing yourself, you can do anyway. Your possibilities are largely determined by your self-perception is.
But, mind you, the same self-description can be a challenge. You need to do something that collides with your own ideas about ourselves. "I - polite and never rude to other people." It is the right and, like, a harmless plant can in fact do a good or a service. When, for example, bad people try to stick to you. But the person is so intrusive that dosen't pay attention to your polite persuasion . In such a situation, it seems necessary to get out of yourself. Come out beyond itself. Be something more than you can imagine.
What can you say about yourself? Stop for a minute and think about it. Give yourself a definition. Do not be too philosophizing and think of complex designs. Try to define yourself in one word. "I am ...". I - the person. Well, frankly, indisputable statement. But what it gives you, what it tells you yourself or others? What do you have two arms and two legs. That you are omnivorous. That you possess intelligence. Good, but not too much, do not you think?
This game in the definition of itself can be continued. Who else are you ? "I - a woman / man" - here is, added another item. "I - a parent," "I - ...". The list goes on. Try it. How much do you have such determinations for yourself?
So, you are - all that is above. Each of these definitions imply some special features. From these onesis in many ways made up your unique and exclusive. Let's try to take the next step. Look at each of these "definitions". What it carries? What kind of information? For example, as I said, "person" - this, at least, bipedal mammal. More and reasonable, like. So, it turns out that for every image is a specific set of descriptions, but if you're talking about yourself, self-descriptions. Each of these characters has a certain set of features and, importantly, behaves in a certain way. Worker works, parent is raising a child, the driver is driving, and so on.
... You somehow identify with these characters and live the way they should live. This - at most (but not less than) are your roles. And these roles you try out myself. Some culling, some are leaving yourself. You draw yourself like a picture which shows who you are. And this inner picture helps you to be yourself. And the extra touches - it's your development milestones.
So, the picture shows who you are. And the artist - is you too. And no one else. notice this.
That is, of course, someone can to some extent affect you, and your picture will change something, but to apply or not to apply the new touches - it's up to you and no one else. In the end, your whole life - is the process of drawing pictures. Something to erase something to finish. But pencil and eraser are in your hand ...
This picture occurs in obedience to your wishes, short-term and premeditated. Sometimes it is the mood - and you suddenly throw a few extra features. And sometimes you take a long time of thinking, it is worth to once again touch the canvas and what you exectly need to fix in it or what to add. And what has been drawn, mind you, change yourself. You find yourself in a strange way connected with your own creation. You are becoming it. Those features that appear in the portrait, become your features ...
Let's go back to our game, we started with, remember? So, there are a number of roles. Do you accept them, sometimes consciously, sometimes not. And they become part of you. Knowledge of these roles, can tell you about yourself.
You - are, in a sense, a set of your own self-perceptions of ourselves.
You know your capabilities and limitations, advantages and disadvantages, isn't it? And this is the description - the most accurate portrait of yours. Who knows you better than you know yourself? The others? But they judge you just by your appearance. Your behavior - is just one side of the coin. After all, you yourself understand more what you're doing and why. And what not to do.
But know everything about yourself , probably is impossible. Or at least very difficult. You can tell only what you know and realize yourself because only that you realize himself, right?
For example, if you do not notice the fact that you are often greedy, you can not tell to yourself you can not say "I am mean." Sometimes it happens that a person knows that he is greedy and behaves accordingly. According to his representations about itself. As if he himself - that's what he thinks about himself. This is true, of course, not just about disadvantages. If you, for example, do not fully realize your potential, you too will not manage to tell anyone about it, even to yourself. The point here is not to boast. Quite different. In getting to know yourself ...
.. Because such knowledge has a special power. When you can judge yourself, anyway, you kind of get under the influence of these words, these judgments. They can help and hinder you, it all depends on the situation, what is going on in your life. The more roles you have, the more resources for self-description, the richer selection of what can be done.
People - being oh, what a difficult and ambiguous. Contradictory, we'd say. Sometimes it is difficult to predict its behavior. And even my own. So we create for ourselves description, which laid our properties and help us be ourselves. Otherwise too difficult. "I - a young and healthy, so I'll let the bus sit to the sick and the old people." This is quite natural and even necessary for the organization of at least some of our lives. Knowing what else you would expect from yourself certain actions in certain situations. Knowing yourself, you can do anyway. Your possibilities are largely determined by your self-perception is.
But, mind you, the same self-description can be a challenge. You need to do something that collides with your own ideas about ourselves. "I - polite and never rude to other people." It is the right and, like, a harmless plant can in fact do a good or a service. When, for example, bad people try to stick to you. But the person is so intrusive that dosen't pay attention to your polite persuasion . In such a situation, it seems necessary to get out of yourself. Come out beyond itself. Be something more than you can imagine.
