Learning to be a QUEEN!

Dear, dear, loved  women! Most of you live alone, or with the unloved person, or frantically rushing in search of happiness ... You are - scared, confused and disappointed with life. Are you looking for support in this crazy world, but you're too weak to understand:
ONLY SUPPORT, THAT THE PERSON CAN TRUST - is himself.

You so want to be weak, bury your nose in the man's shoulder and to be a little girl, which mighty and the adult male will protect against all adversity, will love and tender care of her all life.

THROW THIS  CRAP OUT OF YOUR HEAD!

Even the parents do not have to take care of you all your life, and do you expect from a stranger that would take the baton from them?

It's time to grow up. And it means - to accept responsibility for everything that happens to you. Threw a beloved? Do not whine, do not feel sorry for yourself and think - why it did not happen the way you planned? And were you planning to do something? Or, once again, relied on the "fate"? 


 THERE IS NO FAILURES - ONLY A LESSONS

Each person can achieve what he wants if clearly decides WHAT he needs, HOW he can reach it and STOP  EXPECTING from the the WORLD FREEBIE.

You do not expect that someone will come and bring you money? You get up in the morning and go to work. As it is necessary to act with respect to the rest.
Start with yourself. Start with some small things. Teach yourself to be happy - always, regardless of the circumstances. DARE to be yourself. 
Tell yourself it does not matter, even if I do not meet my man in my entire life , I still: will get a lot of pleasure from intercourse with men, will test all pleasures of sex, give birth to the child ...



In general - I will do what I want. THIS IS MY WORLD!

And, believe me, you will have all that and much more of what you want to be done. World - rich and generously gives oneself to the one who knows how to enjoy it!

You are - WOMEN. You are are valuable itself. Doubt? Go out and flirt with any man. How he would be delighted! You say; oh, well, opening, understandably what these peasants want from us. Exactly! You initially have something that gives you value in society. But men have to make EVERYTHING ourselves. Use your feminine charm, to bring joy to themselves and men.


Be self-confident women. Not a bitch, not a maid, not a work colleague, but - the Queen of World.

The key to all of this - in FLEXIBILITY. Rubber hose can be tie a knot - and still he remains himself. Learn how to be flexible - and then you no longer have to wait until someone will choose you, you will be able to choose YOURSELF most pressious for yourself.


Your KING.

I -am what I think of myself

When you say "me" what do you mean? Who is you, who is this "I", let's try to understand.

What can you say about yourself? Stop for a minute and think about it. Give yourself a definition. Do not be too philosophizing and think of complex designs. Try to define yourself in one word. "I am ...". I - the person. Well, frankly, indisputable statement. But what it gives you, what it tells you yourself or others? What do you have two arms and two legs. That you are omnivorous. That you possess intelligence. Good, but not too much, do not you think?

This game in the definition of itself can be continued. Who else are you ? "I - a woman / man" - here is, added another item. "I - a parent," "I - ...". The list goes on. Try it. How much do you have such determinations for yourself?

So, you are -  all that is above. Each of these definitions imply some special features. From these onesis in many ways made ​​up your unique and exclusive. Let's try to take the next step. Look at each of these "definitions". What it carries? What kind of information? For example, as I said, "person" - this, at least, bipedal mammal. More and reasonable, like. So, it turns out that for every image is a specific set of descriptions, but if you're talking about yourself, self-descriptions. Each of these characters has a certain set of features and, importantly, behaves in a certain way. Worker works, parent  is raising a child, the driver is driving, and so on.

... You somehow identify with these characters and live the way they should live. This - at most (but not less than) are your roles. And these roles you try out myself. Some culling, some are leaving yourself. You draw yourself like a picture which shows who you are. And this inner picture helps you to be yourself. And the extra touches - it's your development milestones.


So, the picture shows who you are. And the artist - is you too. And no one else. notice this.

That is, of course, someone can to some extent affect you, and your picture will change something, but to apply or not to apply the new touches - it's up to you and no one else. In the end, your whole life - is the process of drawing pictures. Something to erase something to finish. But pencil and eraser are in your hand ...

This picture occurs in obedience to your wishes, short-term and premeditated. Sometimes it is the mood - and you suddenly throw a few extra features. And sometimes you  take a long time of thinking, it is worth to once again touch the canvas and what you exectly  need to fix in it or what to add. And what has been drawn, mind you, change yourself. You find yourself in a strange way connected with your own creation. You are becoming it. Those features that appear in the portrait, become your features ...

Let's go back to our game, we started with, remember? So, there are a number of roles. Do you accept them, sometimes consciously, sometimes not. And they become part of you. Knowledge of these roles, can tell you about yourself.

You - are, in a sense, a set of your own self-perceptions of ourselves.


You know your capabilities and limitations, advantages and disadvantages, isn't it? And this is the description - the most accurate portrait of yours. Who knows you better than you know yourself? The others? But they judge you just by your appearance. Your behavior - is just one side of the coin. After all, you yourself understand more what you're doing and why. And what not to do.

But know everything about yourself , probably is impossible. Or at least very difficult. You can tell only what you know and realize yourself because only that you realize himself, right?

For example, if you do not notice the fact that you are often greedy, you can not tell to yourself you can not say "I  am mean." Sometimes it happens that a person knows that he is greedy and behaves accordingly. According to his representations about itself. As if he himself - that's what he thinks about himself. This is true, of course, not just about disadvantages. If you, for example, do not fully realize your potential, you too will not manage to tell anyone about it, even to yourself. The point here is not to boast. Quite different. In getting to know yourself ...

.. Because such knowledge has a special power. When you can judge yourself, anyway, you  kind of get under the influence of these words, these judgments. They can help and hinder you, it all depends on the situation, what is going on in your life. The more roles you have, the more resources for self-description, the richer selection of what can be done.

People - being oh, what a difficult and ambiguous. Contradictory, we'd say. Sometimes it is difficult to predict its behavior. And even my own. So we create for ourselves description, which laid our properties and help us be ourselves. Otherwise too difficult. "I - a young and healthy, so I'll let the bus sit to the sick and the old people." This is quite natural and even necessary for the organization of at least some of our lives. Knowing what else you would expect from yourself certain actions in certain situations. Knowing yourself, you can do anyway. Your possibilities are largely determined by your self-perception is.

But, mind you, the same self-description can be a challenge. You need to do something that collides with your own ideas about ourselves. "I - polite and never rude to other people." It is the right and, like, a harmless plant can in fact do a good or a service. When, for example,  bad people try to stick to you. But the person is so intrusive that dosen't pay attention to your polite persuasion . In such a situation, it seems necessary to get out of yourself. Come out beyond itself. Be something more than you can imagine.

Affirmations. What is this? And how it works?

Affirmations - are statements that are helping to change the way we think and create the future that we seek. But not only ...

Affirmations - the thoughts, words, feelings, and emotions that each of us use in everyday life. However, as we all know, we do not always use the positive but also negative statements. So first of all, if you want to change your life for the better with the help of affirmations, you should only use them in a positive way.

So how does it work?

Think about what you're saying? Count how many times a day, for example, you or the people around you pronounce the word "Nightmare!" and "Horror!" These words should be forgotten! Each time, instead of them say, "Happy!" If aloud so hard to do, you can say it to yourself. The main thing - to replace every negative pulse to positive.

Or, for example, the phrase of astonished man, "Wow!" does not hold water. Remember once and for all - "All of Me." And just so, then the well-being will walk as your shadow.


Our thoughts and emotions shape our lives and our surroundings. Remember that like attracts to itself similar . Negative thoughts attract negative events in our lives but fears and concerns necessarily materialize, since we have projected their ourselves. What do you think, that you become.

From the above we can make a remarkable conclusion: "The positive thoughts and emotions of love, happiness and enjoyment, will draw into our lives happy event and necessary to us people."

But for those who are convinced that it does not work. Let me explain that the affirmations can not work only in one case - if there is a conflict between what you say and who you really are. That is, if you think one thing, say another, and the third mean, your guardian angels are no longer able to understand what you want in reality. That is, if every day you say "I want a bag of money," and the subconscious mind responds to answer "Yeah, hee-hee, now will repeat  10 more times and get as many as two suitcases ... this theory does not work," of course, nothing will work . Because there is no specific goal. There is a simple "want".


The main thing - your positive attitude, a belief that you will succeed. Come first to harmony within yourself, and you'll notice that the world around you has changed. Changed as much as you wanted to.

First, any positive statement is formulated in the present tense or as an accomplished fact. Secondly, there should not be a particle "not". 
Third, it should be directed only to a good cause and for the sake of goodness and love in the universe.


And one more thing, do not come true the desires which you think you want, but those whose performance your subconscious actually wants . So, do not be surprised if it comes true, what you so passionately wanted but were afraid to even think about it ...

Of course, I can cite the example of the great Louise Hay, who is the founder of the theory of affirmations. Despite the fact that she was born into a very poor family, was exposed during childhood of the humiliation by others, and many other things which I will not tell youshe changed her life through positive thinking, which has become a creature of her life (you can do some reading of her book where it says a lot about the way of this change.) And everything that she has managed to achieve, Louise Hay, reached  without assistance through the active application of learned and even improved method of positive thinking, which is based on its unique affirmations. The woman regained her ruined health (got rid of the cancer of the uterus without medication and operations, but only the power of thought) and established her own destiny!

Another important note. Affirmations can change your life, so first of all, think about it,  whether to change the life that you have now. As the saying goes, do not fix what is not broken. If you've decided that you need a change, as the air, then go ahead. We expect great things.

Saying the affirmations is an effective way to achieve the goals, happiness, love, harmony, health and well-being. Work with them every day, saying them aloud or silently, and the result will not wait!

One last tip before you start using affirmations, ask for forgiveness from yourself and your body for what was previously thought about someone (especially you) badly, for having experienced negative emotions, and promise yourself with this time to think and speak only positive. And follow that promise

When your life will be filled with nothing but positive thoughts, feelings and emotions that come along with them and remain with you forever peace, understanding, empathy, the ability to forgive and most importantly - love.

I wish you learn to see the good in everything with what you meet, and believe me, the world will respond in kind. Positive thoughts will be the light to guide you through life and will open all the doors in front of you.

The area of freedom

She does not depend on age, passport or certificate. It is possible in 15 years to win the European Championshipor you can in 25 - to sit on the neck of the parents. So instead of waiting for some kind of offensive magic hour, after which you will become independent woman - studing these text, force yourself to change, and make a choice in favor of your road.

Learn to agree

I presume you occupy a big stubbornness. If you have decided that right after the New Year you with Adam  get married and go away to the Arctic - to lift the fallen penguins (they themselves can not stand up, if topple), so - so be it. And let the world does not waste time on empty persuasion, but rather help you to pack in a suitcase ipod and woolen socks.

Who are we fighting for?

With the senseless obstinacy. If you take the trouble to at least five minutes to listen close, you may realize that in some ways is to agree with them. For example, in what is now the most important thing for you -  study. And the Penguins and Adam can easily wait. Maybe in a couple of years, you do not want to lift the Penguins but breeding Labradors,and with Will in New Zealand.

Phrase-wand

With adults: You have convinced me. It seems so really would be better.
With her: You know, you seem to be right. I'll have to try it.

Learn how to argue

To compromise - not means being a weak-willed. Teacher loudly asserts that the chipmunk - is bird, and you're willing to nod his head, hoping for relief in the exam? Ugh, how embarrassing. But even worse, if you are in a hurry to agree with everyone just to please and get liked .


With whom are we fighting for?

With the lack of character and a tendency to grovel. Divide your inner beliefs into areas and once for all decide - what are you willing to sacrifice for the sake of others, and what - no. For example, no one will ever convince you to try drugs or steal something. This is an area of ​​strong and unquestioning "no." In all other cases, the need to make a decision is based on the situation.

Bonus:

A person who knows how to be calm, firm and arguments to say "no" - it's a strong person. Such a man nowhere will be scared, want to be friends with and are afraid of enmity. Spineless sycophants slide in a dark corner. But bear in mind - the art of saying "no" to train better not on your grandmother who asks you to take out the trash, but on the friend, offering to smoke, "one such magical marijuana from Jamaica."

Phrase-wand

With adults: Sorry, but this is against my principles!
With your: Smart people do not do that.

Learn to recognize the errors

Not mistaken only one who does not do anything. All fail from time to time tasks, break the rules, disrupt the timing and do not hear the alarm.There is nothing wrong with errors. Bad if you're acting like a dopey kid who tries to blame the broken cup, and eaten jam on the innocent cat.

With whom are we fighting for?

With cowardice.

Bonus:

If you itself without waiting for debriefing, say that was mistaken, no one will trample you underfoot. You probably even scold no one will. Because people who recognize their mistakes are the only strong and upright men. And there are always respected by all. The main thing - do not forget to fix your own fault. Who broken a vase, is the one who sweeps up the pieces.

-Phrase-wand:

With adults: Sorry, but it seems that all I brought. What can I do to make as soon as possible to rectify the situation?
With your: I'm sorry, I did not mean it, I promise. Let's try to fix it?

Pimp optimism

No one likes moaners and pessimists, . You would take in exploration (to the team, to work) a person who drags everyone behind, afraid of challenges and moreover hoots like an old gloomy owl, that all is lost?

With whom are we fighting for?

With blues and laziness. Just do not stick humus - from optimism to enthusiastic idiocy If you and your friends get lost in the woods, do not rapidly be glad that you can make some glamorous skirts of mugs and get acquainted with a snow man. Tell better to everyone  not to panic, change the shoes (dry and wet socks needles spoil strayed karma) and look at the north side of trees. The idea is that it should be covered with moss. In the meantime, people having fun, call the Ministry of Emergency Situations and calls the professional reinforcement.

Bonus:

Optimistic, confident person automatically becomes a leader in any company.

Phrase-wand:

With adults: I love challenges. They encourage me.
With your: Come on, everything will be fine! I know how to handle the situation!

What will help you quickly become an independent?

1. Foreign languages.

Bison them, and even better - love. A man who simply says at least one foreign language - is the embodiment of freedom and independence. You will not get lost in any country of the world, read more books (translated by no means the best), you will have advantages in hiring and in the choice of the gentleman.

2. Travel.

Buy a ticket at a travel agency can anyone. Learn how to plan your trip by yourself - choose the route yourelf, order tickets and book hotels, chooses travel, country and city. You do not notice how you will visit entire planet, make a bunch of friends and a million precious memories.

3. Internet.

There are not only the horoscope, diet and abstracts. Internet - it's your personal freedom - the freedom to buy, to vote, to travel, to believe. Make your site, start your own blog - and not full of stupid hearts and syusyami about Tokio Hotel, but a real, serious. Try to convince the thousands of people that you are serious, adult, and you have something to say to the world. It may well be that the world will indeed be interesting to listen to you.

4. Work

No matter - the pizza, the waitress, the courier, Jr. Assistant Secretary. At your age, any job - is important and honorable, because - first in life. Believe me, the need to perform adult responsibilities and adapt to the team quickly will be deprive you of infantile quirks.

I myself!

1. Responsibilities.


Own  responsibilities that everyone has an independent and an adult. For example, shift on your fragile shoulders all invoices that come to your home. If you do not trust the money and important forms? By the way, this is a very sad occasion for thinking.

2. Money.

Establish usually defer 10% of any amount in the precious envelope. No matter - this is permanent or casual earnings 500 dollars donated by your aunt about passing the exam or little thing you are given out to pocket expenses. The main thing - 10% should go to the stash. If you do not have the courage to gut the envelope for a year, you'll get a major award - out of nowhere a substantial sum that can be spent on all sorts of joyous frenzy. And, of course, the title of the Most Intelligent and Independent in the World Girl.

3. Pet.

Again, it does not matter - to whom exactly do you bring down a wave of tenderness,

responsibility and care. Hamster, puppy, baby brother, cactus named Athanasius - all of them wither without your help and warmth. Nothing makes a man independent as quickly as the need every day - regardless of the mood and the weather - take out, bring water or filtered water thoroughly someone young and defenseless.

Things are not what they seem

Two angels stopped for the night in the home of a wealthy family. The family was inhospitable and did not want to leave the Angels in the living room, after putting them to sleep in the cold basement. When they were going to sleep older angel saw a hole in the wall and closed it up. When the younger angel saw it, he asked, why?

Senior said, things are not what they seem.

The following night they went to sleep in the house of a very poor, but hospitable man and his wife. The couple shared with the angels little food that they had, and said to the Angels sleep in their beds. The morning after waking angels found the owner and his wife crying. Their cow, whose milk was the only household income, lay dead in the crib. The younger angel asked the elder:

- How could this happen? The first man had everything, and you helped him. Another family had little but was willing to share everything, and you allow their only cow died. Why?

- Things are not what they seem, - older angel replied. - When we were in the basement, I realized that in the wall was a treasure of gold. Its owner was rude and did not want to do good. I repaired the wall so  the treasure was not found. When the next night we slept in the bed,  to his wife came the angel of death. I gave him the cow.

Things are not what they seem. We will never know everything. And even if you have faith, you have  also instill confidence that everything that happens is in your favor. This will understand with time. Some people come into our lives and quickly go, some become our friends, and stay for a minute. Yesterday - is history. Tomorrow - a mystery. Today ...
The present - a gift. Life is magic, and the taste of each moment is unique!


Very often we grieve when something we do not get. Often we blame ourselves in it. Or the case. Or life in general. But I believe that everything that is done is done for the better.

Previously, I believe in another truth: if you want to live, be able to spin. And if something was going wrong, I blamed myself around. Scolded. Punished. Well, as best I could. Do you think that what I want? The result: low self-esteem, self-doubt, and accordingly, in my actions and decisions. Oh, how should I then struggled with this.

Now I am sure everything in life is a lot easier. Yes, for everything that happens to us, we take full responsibility. Just us. Sometimes life throws us and all the "pretzel". But only in order to make us stronger and better.


If we prevail against any disease, we frantically swallow pills without a moment's thought, why do I have, but my closest friend does not. Or  why 5.9 billion people on the planet does not have such the disease ?

Because we all think differently, building on our thoughts, we make any action, and the output is the consequences are not always pleasing to us. So we need to treat not the body but a Soul. Although, since you're already sick with something, then you need to drink a tablet, but do not rely on them. It is necessary to begin the treatment from your thoughts. The disease will go away and never come back. Some authors say that in such waythe cancer can be treated. But still, it is better to prevent disease than to treat it, because when it is already there, people often start to panic, but there is much more difficult to fight.

Or you broken up with your lover. Of course we are shocked. Yes, even in what. Such horror. What to do now? Those who are younger, see the solution to suicide, those who are older, in a glass. Wise can be at any age. If your lover through you, it is only in order to make way to your heart, a worthy partner. Nobody is perfect. The one who left was just not your man. Tell him thank you. Now you have opened the opportunity to meet with your half. Your half never go away. Those who have gone out of your life,  are not your second component, but brought you a lot of useful information. Remember how many beautiful moments you had. And how many lessons you can now bear from it!

What we think, we send into space, the universe (call it what you will), and from there we get the result. The universe does not know the emotions. She gets a vibration that radiates our brains and just doing what they want. Here I also want to insert a little anecdote:

A woman is standing and saying: man is asshole, the drunkard, does not bring the money; the young children are noisy, losers, none of them is sensible. The government only cares about himself,  you bastards. Boss, also a pig, nor "hello" nor "goodbye", but only screams and hisses .....
Behind her are two angels, one is writing something. The second asked him:
- Why does she need all this?

- I do not know. Orders are orders. Write it down!


I will offer you a couple of tricks to help get rid of the blues, spruce will try hard from depression too and away the negative thoughts.


1. There are rubber bands, thin, their money is tied up. They have different colors. Stock up with a dozen such. Put one on hand. Once notice that in my head bad thoughts, click on the eraser on hand. And just think of the good. When you feel that this gum satiated a lot of negativity from you, throw it away, put on another. And so, as long as your subconscious mind does not understand, think is bad - bad is punished.

2. In the morning, opening your eyes, look at  watch. Smile and count three minutes. Think of a good (if  the bad thoughts climb - cut them off with rubber band on your arm.) Smile for three minutes every morning. First, someone it will be difficult, but there is also a matter of time. Get in the habit, and then it will be ease to you .

This is enough, but remember the words of father Thomas. He said:

Just like snakes and scorpions placed for a long time in the vessel, in the end, die, and bad thoughts, disturbing the heart of a hermit, die and disappear if you do not allow them to pass.

The theory of savings or how to love yourself

Many women often indulge in many things. In the expensive cosmetics, in manicure, a spa salons, or even easierin the new winter shoes or extra pair of underwear. There is a contrast, another type of women who do not save on itself absolutely. And what they can spend on myself . Who's right, from these two types of ladies?
Once, in a conversation my friend said the following sentence: "When I smoke expensive cigarettes, I have things go well, the profits itself swims in hand. When the class of cigarettes goes down as slowly and sluggishly go my business."

I thought about it. About the point of psychology. If this friend of mine dose not smoked but ate chocolate, his words were the same, only the word "cigarette" would be replaced with the word "chocolate".


I do not know about you, but for some time I ever scrimped on myself. And that felt like something between the homeless and the poor. Then of course I did not know what makes me a vision of myself. And then, my mother once told me: "Never save on yourself, because then you will go all your life in tatters."

And I abruptly changed my attitude to the economy. I really went to the store and bought a perfume that cost forty times more than before I was able to spend over a month. Wow! I'll tell you how strongly I flew in my own eyes. I felt expensive. Even though I did not go on the red carpet at the Cannes festival, but felt like it was so.

After I thought about it. I already had that to compare, and I realized you can save money on yourself, but with the mind. If my salary is about 5000 UAH I certainly can not spend over 4000. And if you subtract the bills, pay for food, etc., what would be left? Only money on travel. And yet, every month, you need somewhere to buy something, but please yourself. Every economist himself, and everyone is aware of how much money he has, and how much he can spend. But the calculations for embezzlement, must necessarily be a column "for personal use".

How does it work?

When we allow ourselves to get what we need to improve self-esteem, we begin to grow in our own eyes. We begin to feel more important, loved, popular. A, respectively, and for others we become such. This affects our communication with people. If you've been notorious, thanks to its purchase (things or servants, does not matter) your systems are aligned and gradually become invisible. Therefore, communicating, you begin to open up more, smile more, and that attracts people to you. As rapidly growing fast and your career. Although, by whom and where you work, your business will succeed.

One model, once said: "The big money is easy to earn, and small - hard." She said this with confidence, because once she was poor, and worked as a waitress for a pittance. And over time, become famous and rich.

There is a theory that says that in order to achieve something, you must now experience a sense of joy from what has been achieved desired. Simply put, start today to rejoice over the fact that you have a million that you are the most charming that your children are the most talented, etc. It's not all seem a simple task, because not all girls know how to be the most beautiful. Not all men will be able to experience sensations owner of an expensive car. And out of this situation is the easy way out. We all probably ever got in a beautiful salon car, or someone told us, how do we enchanting. It is necessary to remember these feelings and experiences. Remember and be able to bring them into the present. Learn to enjoy what is not, but really want to. This creates a power of attraction and thereby becomes valid desired.

I'm not saying thatyou should live only in dreams Of course, the need to continue work towards achieving your dreams. But not always the answer comes to us it.

It is important to remember that there are such things as our psychological jams. Day after day, someone sits down and rides the subway to work. And every day, he sees the sick and the poor, who are held there. A luxury and a decent life, he sees only in passing expensive and upmarket shops, hotels and clubs. This is the effect of habituation. He was used to his social place, and even if he does not like, he does not move.


In order to change this, change and familiar way. Not always, but sometimes go to work by taxi. Of course, it is much more expensive, but it "catches up to you are important." Not always, but sometimes, it is necessary to do an expensive gift. It also helps you to feel like a king or queen. Let all your things will be a second-hand, but one is Versace.

It is important that climbing to the ladder of success should be gradual. Let us again take the example of machines. If you have a lifetime rode the subway and suddenly boarded a limousine, you will overcome the confusion rather than joy for their achievements. Because it is important to go through all the stages of recovery: Metro - bus-taxi - his first car - a road car.

So, we can summarize that saving on itself but with the mind. Of course, on the way to the top you are waiting many pitfalls, which will be known only to you. And I did not say anything about them just because everyone has their peaks. And their obstacles on the way. But do not be afraid of it. It's like riding a bike. How many times to fall, then to boldly go? And in life we fall down, but get up and move on, gaining experience and becoming only more intelligent. But let bygones be bygones......

Intergated personality or someone's half?.

Each of us have heard the legend of the halves of walking around the world in search of each other. We hope that coming to wrap a handsome prince, it was she (the second half) will make us deeply happy. And desperately looking for the perfect man to save us from ourselves. 

Forget! 

First, the woman radiating fluids despair does not attract the opposite sex. Second, the search for the ideal - employment fairly stupid. With blinders on the eyes, you will look for the mythical person , whose image is formed by past experiences and prejudices of society. Burn your list of qualities of the ideal man and feel by the heart each of the candidates, not hanging a label through reason. And most importantly, do not wait to find someone who will make you happy, that someone is you, yourself. Relationships will not save you. Each of us - whole person, inside which there is everything to be happy. External able to awaken in us a state for a moment. True happiness comes from the ability to enjoy every moment of life ..

We emphasize two types of failed relationships: 

1) A woman enters a "business contract" with the man, hoping that he would kill in her the sense of loneliness, will fill the inside, will satisfy the needs and requirements. 

2) The woman is totally committed to the relationship, dissolving in a man, forgetting about her friends and hobbies. 

In both cases, the man is the lifeline that helps to get away from myself, from the depth of feelings and experiences. Relations are necessary, especially for the spiritual evolution of personality to reveal the full sense of love, compassion, warmth, which is already in us. Right now start living as a complete person, radiating love, and you will attract into your life or have  another whole different look at the man (before you looked on him as a half), which is close to you .

Meditation - an exercise for the mind

Returning to the question of how to save and where to get the energy, I want to say a few words about meditation.

Psychologists, and teachers of different practices know:

WHERE IS ATTENTION

THERE IS ENERGY

Where is the attention the most?

Usually on objects of the world: family, work, shopping, movies, animals, flowers, books, even interesting. Even at the time of an action focus is often on other things and often in a different time.

For example, during lunch time, few people realize that they want to eat at this time. Selected from the range offered in the dining room or coffee shop, rather than what you want.

If we listen to the body, it always indicates that wishes and that would be better. Also in the mind spinning like a swarm of bees, thoughts, memories of the past or the future and plans for the future, and not always justified criticism of yourself or others people.

All this is done, instead of full dinner. A fully - not just wave a spoon, but the attention to be at least at the time of the meal for yourself. After all, our body needs not only nutritious natural nutrients, but also energy. And energy - is precisely the attention.

There exist meditation just aimed at purifying your mind from the so-called "mental garbage" - a state of "all that I see and what I think, I say."

This also contributes to a special variety of distractions that seek to influence a person's mind through his senses: hearing, sight, smell, and touch.

Hence the variety of advertising in various designs, various tastings. For the attention of a man fighting many commercial and political structures in order to enter into his mind, to take its place and get yourself its share of attention and thus energy.

Meditation aimed at cleansing the mind, to study the nature of the mind and thoughts their nature, to help get beyond the usual perception of the world, to learn how to explore their inner world.

During meditation, the attention seemed tied to the breath. A breath going on inside your body. This allows you to keep quiet within yourself and energize.

At this time just might start the healing process of the physical body, restore emotional stability and peace of mind.

I would like to say a few sessions should not expect instant results. But this is possible with a regular practice.

Meditation - an exercise for the mind, which affects on the condition of the body.

Knowing this, we can consciously manage our health, emotions and energy.




In this to us can help meditation with visualization. Rendering images that may appear to help set up or on the wave of life to which you want to live. Listening to the radio, you can catch a wave interference, or with a clean sound.

Usually it is recommended to master the practice of meditation in the group where the teacher always explain what, how to do, you learn how to listen to your body. It is also a discipline in a certain way. Many practitioners are familiar with meditation or start a home yoga practice the fact that it has a beginning and after 10-20 minutes is not enough patience, everything strays or is taken a decision that it is enough for today.

What you attract into your life?

About what do you think, what you feel and what you attract into your life.

Fear of the new relationship, you are more afraid of them, and they do not deliver joy and eventually you broke up.

Fear of the new projects, chores, a new and interesting activities, go away from her, plunging into the usual and familiar, but not giving the joy of life and energy, activity.

Fearing their desires, you eventually stop to understand what you want.

Thinking that you do not deserve to be happy, beautiful, wealthy, you are distancing yourself from happiness, beauty and consistency.


Do you think that  something does not work, then you would not succeed in a single attempt undertaken by you. And you do not even think about how to do so, to work out.

 Think about something (happy, beautiful, expensive), that this is definitely not for you and not about you. You separate yourself from happiness, beauty and abundance and include the "victim" of circumstances.

If you think that "all men cheat", then all your men will cheat on you.

And you know, the list is never ending.

For yourself you have it finished when you begin to live your desires, dreams, recognize your right to happiness, and most importantly, be honest with yourself.

Dream of a beautiful mutual love, a strong and happy family, go towards your ideas and desires, begin to do something to make your ideas come true, the courage to take the first step without delay.

Do not betray yourself.

Dream, believe in yourself and your happiness and success, believe in your man.

The Hoop of Aphrodite

Women's the hoop strength.

Legend has it that Gefest forged it for his wife as a gift of love, Aphrodite and admiration for her feminine wiles. Four large precious stones represent the four basic elements, the four directions, the four manifestations of the feminine energy, and four small stone to the four manifestations of male energy - the four main types of men, and at the top of the ninth stone is the main symbol of the female energy. A woman who is able to collect all gems gained power over men and herself, will gain power over the world.

Legend says the first woman, who did it was - Aphrodite. She was easy to turn the head of any man.

Then this band for a long time was stored in the temple of Aphrodite, where the priestess learned the secret practices of female power. In the temple, there were four main priestess who represented the four manifestations of the feminine energy. Gathering in a circle of female power and connecting the four energies together, they had enormous power. The rest of the priestess, having their learning as a test had to drive one certain man crazy of the clan and get from him the gift of a small semi-precious stone. When a priestess could collect four small stone, knowing the men of four clans! she moved to another level and had to get a gift from one man four precious stones, and the third stage, when she received the ninth stone as a gift from a very powerful man. When all nine stones collected - hoop has tremendous power. But the greatest strength she had, when she could collect all nine stones.

After spending a night with a woman, a man can not remember in the morning, even her name. Art is not to spend the night with the man, the art is  not spending the night with him, but to understand his psychology and learn his secret desire that he will overwhelm you with jewels just for the opportunity to be around you.

Unreal reality

Over the past decade, scientists have come to the conclusion that the universe is a kind of unfathomable clean energy, which has its own awareness. In Christianity, it is called by God (with different names), in the Muslim world - by Allah in the East - the Truth. Scientists call it the physical vacuum. There are other names. But no matter how this Something is called - it's just different metaphors, different ways of talking about one and the same. This source of all things, the force uniting everyone and everything in the world and is the basis of life. Magicians and sorcerers were known, and now this is the official science knows that this mysterious energy is amenable to human intentions. That is our very expectation of something starts to work on other energy systems and build the event in line with our expectation. Consequently, the one source of all things, the same Force that shapes our destiny is located in us.

But it's been known since ancient times. In the Slavic-Aryan Vedas says, "Getting to Know the World Reveal around us, we will sooner or later come to a clear understanding the fact that we know ourselvesbecause our existence in the World Reveal is an integral part of us." And the Bible says, "Do not seek the kingdom of God in the heavens or in the earth paradise, it is within each of us." A sign at the famous temple has existed for several centuries, says: "Know thyself." In Zen Buddhism, there is a great saying: "If a man is looking for the truth about himself, he tramples down what he is looking."

So why do people remained deaf to ancient wisdom and modern scientists to conclusions? How it happens that, when faced with the same World, different people perceive it such in different ways? And the reason is again the man himself. In his attitude to what he perceives. It turns out that when dealing with unimaginable, rich and complex reality, people are coming to the creation of a wretched model of the world, which is causing them pain and suffering.


People communicate with the surrounding reality, at least at two levels: the conscious and the subconscious. Consciously, we are dealing with a model of the world, not with the actual world. While the subconscious mind perceives reality as it is.

Our subconscious mind, under the relevant regulations ahead of us builds our world (or rather - small world), protects us from the chaos of the universe, selecting for us to perceive only what it considers necessary and safe, thereby fulfilling for us creative and protective functions. It is our mind does not allow us to go beyond the boundaries of the created world. He is constantly coming up with different shifts, often using fear to convince us that that illusion, which he presents to us, and there is Reality itself.


Everyone lives in his own world and creates its own unique world. Every one of us from birth under the influence of parents, adults, teachers, the environment constructs its reality, its world. If you have children, you remember how you impose them your description of the world, and explained them what is bad, and that - is good, what can be done and what can not. The same is done with them, grandparents, teachers and other adults.

As a result, your child has formed his Description of the world that is in some ways similar and in some respects different from yours. And your parents do to you as well. And all the people involved in this process. And you can not say it's good or bad, that we are taught from childhood to perceive reality in some special, "human" way. This process is absolutely necessary in view of the fact that, being involved in it, we feel calmer. But we are so involved in doing this that we forget one obvious truth: between Reality itself and our world there is a huge difference.

There is another paradox: we do live in Reality and  unconsciously perceive it as such as it is - as something wonderful, incomprehensible, unknowable, but realize only  just a model of Reality, the creation of which we spend our whole life and energy. But first we make some conclusions.

So:

The Universe (Reality, Validity, God, the World) is the unfathomable power, energy, possessing knowledge;

Human awareness is the only part of the Universe, the Divine Consciousness;

The world is incomprehensible and mysterious, and the person has to relate to the world and to himself as a mystery;

Our subconscious mind creates a model of the world in which lives our consciousness. In other words, our consciousness is in the role of observer and evaluator of the events that   our subconscious provide .