The area of freedom

She does not depend on age, passport or certificate. It is possible in 15 years to win the European Championshipor you can in 25 - to sit on the neck of the parents. So instead of waiting for some kind of offensive magic hour, after which you will become independent woman - studing these text, force yourself to change, and make a choice in favor of your road.

Learn to agree

I presume you occupy a big stubbornness. If you have decided that right after the New Year you with Adam  get married and go away to the Arctic - to lift the fallen penguins (they themselves can not stand up, if topple), so - so be it. And let the world does not waste time on empty persuasion, but rather help you to pack in a suitcase ipod and woolen socks.

Who are we fighting for?

With the senseless obstinacy. If you take the trouble to at least five minutes to listen close, you may realize that in some ways is to agree with them. For example, in what is now the most important thing for you -  study. And the Penguins and Adam can easily wait. Maybe in a couple of years, you do not want to lift the Penguins but breeding Labradors,and with Will in New Zealand.

Phrase-wand

With adults: You have convinced me. It seems so really would be better.
With her: You know, you seem to be right. I'll have to try it.

Learn how to argue

To compromise - not means being a weak-willed. Teacher loudly asserts that the chipmunk - is bird, and you're willing to nod his head, hoping for relief in the exam? Ugh, how embarrassing. But even worse, if you are in a hurry to agree with everyone just to please and get liked .


With whom are we fighting for?

With the lack of character and a tendency to grovel. Divide your inner beliefs into areas and once for all decide - what are you willing to sacrifice for the sake of others, and what - no. For example, no one will ever convince you to try drugs or steal something. This is an area of ​​strong and unquestioning "no." In all other cases, the need to make a decision is based on the situation.

Bonus:

A person who knows how to be calm, firm and arguments to say "no" - it's a strong person. Such a man nowhere will be scared, want to be friends with and are afraid of enmity. Spineless sycophants slide in a dark corner. But bear in mind - the art of saying "no" to train better not on your grandmother who asks you to take out the trash, but on the friend, offering to smoke, "one such magical marijuana from Jamaica."

Phrase-wand

With adults: Sorry, but this is against my principles!
With your: Smart people do not do that.

Learn to recognize the errors

Not mistaken only one who does not do anything. All fail from time to time tasks, break the rules, disrupt the timing and do not hear the alarm.There is nothing wrong with errors. Bad if you're acting like a dopey kid who tries to blame the broken cup, and eaten jam on the innocent cat.

With whom are we fighting for?

With cowardice.

Bonus:

If you itself without waiting for debriefing, say that was mistaken, no one will trample you underfoot. You probably even scold no one will. Because people who recognize their mistakes are the only strong and upright men. And there are always respected by all. The main thing - do not forget to fix your own fault. Who broken a vase, is the one who sweeps up the pieces.

-Phrase-wand:

With adults: Sorry, but it seems that all I brought. What can I do to make as soon as possible to rectify the situation?
With your: I'm sorry, I did not mean it, I promise. Let's try to fix it?

Pimp optimism

No one likes moaners and pessimists, . You would take in exploration (to the team, to work) a person who drags everyone behind, afraid of challenges and moreover hoots like an old gloomy owl, that all is lost?

With whom are we fighting for?

With blues and laziness. Just do not stick humus - from optimism to enthusiastic idiocy If you and your friends get lost in the woods, do not rapidly be glad that you can make some glamorous skirts of mugs and get acquainted with a snow man. Tell better to everyone  not to panic, change the shoes (dry and wet socks needles spoil strayed karma) and look at the north side of trees. The idea is that it should be covered with moss. In the meantime, people having fun, call the Ministry of Emergency Situations and calls the professional reinforcement.

Bonus:

Optimistic, confident person automatically becomes a leader in any company.

Phrase-wand:

With adults: I love challenges. They encourage me.
With your: Come on, everything will be fine! I know how to handle the situation!

What will help you quickly become an independent?

1. Foreign languages.

Bison them, and even better - love. A man who simply says at least one foreign language - is the embodiment of freedom and independence. You will not get lost in any country of the world, read more books (translated by no means the best), you will have advantages in hiring and in the choice of the gentleman.

2. Travel.

Buy a ticket at a travel agency can anyone. Learn how to plan your trip by yourself - choose the route yourelf, order tickets and book hotels, chooses travel, country and city. You do not notice how you will visit entire planet, make a bunch of friends and a million precious memories.

3. Internet.

There are not only the horoscope, diet and abstracts. Internet - it's your personal freedom - the freedom to buy, to vote, to travel, to believe. Make your site, start your own blog - and not full of stupid hearts and syusyami about Tokio Hotel, but a real, serious. Try to convince the thousands of people that you are serious, adult, and you have something to say to the world. It may well be that the world will indeed be interesting to listen to you.

4. Work

No matter - the pizza, the waitress, the courier, Jr. Assistant Secretary. At your age, any job - is important and honorable, because - first in life. Believe me, the need to perform adult responsibilities and adapt to the team quickly will be deprive you of infantile quirks.

I myself!

1. Responsibilities.


Own  responsibilities that everyone has an independent and an adult. For example, shift on your fragile shoulders all invoices that come to your home. If you do not trust the money and important forms? By the way, this is a very sad occasion for thinking.

2. Money.

Establish usually defer 10% of any amount in the precious envelope. No matter - this is permanent or casual earnings 500 dollars donated by your aunt about passing the exam or little thing you are given out to pocket expenses. The main thing - 10% should go to the stash. If you do not have the courage to gut the envelope for a year, you'll get a major award - out of nowhere a substantial sum that can be spent on all sorts of joyous frenzy. And, of course, the title of the Most Intelligent and Independent in the World Girl.

3. Pet.

Again, it does not matter - to whom exactly do you bring down a wave of tenderness,

responsibility and care. Hamster, puppy, baby brother, cactus named Athanasius - all of them wither without your help and warmth. Nothing makes a man independent as quickly as the need every day - regardless of the mood and the weather - take out, bring water or filtered water thoroughly someone young and defenseless.

Feminism - evolution or degradation?

Somehow, I came up with a theory that I decided to live the next 1000 years. It sounds like this: a man - was created by nature to meet women's needs and for procreation. It goes without saying that this "brilliant" idea visited my head after the man's offense? I think not. After a while, the offense gone, but I look at the men continued to hold enemy. And not a little effort it took me to get rid of the military spirit. I have been possessed by clean water of Feminism.
If you understand the nature of feminism, it turns out it has a lot of ways to sprouting in the female mind. It could  be raised by mother  (or the one who brought up the girl), it may appear on the grounds of resentment, and perhaps for self-improvement.

So what is feminism than, what it has bad and good ?

Now it is fashionable to be a feminist. If your girlfriend tells you that in her house husband is the boss, and she is on vocals, and you wonder, rebelled, and, of course, tell you that it should not be like this. Slogans: "We are women - stronger than man", etc., is so ingrained in our lives that seem to be so always, there will be. The fight is not long for equality between men and women, and for the superiority of women over men.  And if earlier there was  that the man on the prowl, and the woman in the cave, now a man at work, and the woman, also on the hunt, and at work, and in a cave-anywhere and everywhere.  Naturally, the woman gets tired a lot more. After work, she runs home, but not to rest, but to work! What nonsense, say, men! Is household chores, such hard work! The absurdity is that the woman continues to do these things every day.

Why,  nowadays we can not be relied completely on the man, and to do their - women's responsibilities? Is it because men are now less hardy, more steressed and soft? True-that men can not see! Where are they? Extinct with the dinosaurs? No. We, the women them destroyed. By our tremendous power that is within us. In the wrong direction, we sent our greatest potential. Instead, it would be ideal to carry out our mission - keeper of the hearth and distributor of love, we push, both morally and physically male population to prove ... To each his own, but what is the result ? When a man takes you by the hand, you do not think about the beautiful evening, but the marriage contract that will protect you and your children, if this man will leave you.

Pros of feminism sure everyone finds itself, but the cons are more clearly expressed. We have ceased to educate the courageous men. Why is this happening? Because our boy who grows up and takes the basics of life in the family sees where dad did not play the leading role, but only the executive. He goes to work, takes out the garbage, watches TV and reads the newspaper at the time, as a mom, like a squirrel in a wheel, doing all for the welfare of the family. A man can not be realized in the family.  No one will givesuch an opportunity to him ! What might be the realization? A hanger in the corridor is not screwed! That's right, poor boys, see, what men really. As you consider what your family will get a baby? That's right! The same! Dictatorial wife, who will nag him for everything and never give praise, because it would undermine its men's health. A men are not men for a long time, they perish under the pressure of women's oppression. If the man is not being implemented as a man, he dies.

First, from the inside and then outside. I sometimes met with these women who complained about their husbands: he does not do anything around the house! He is such a kind of reptile-only football or his computer is busy! What about me ? And the children: For us it does not have the time! And you imagine how many times you come to a place where you say you're a fool? Probably more than never, right? And your spouse have nowhere to go. He has responsibilities and you have children together. So he goes home with his head down and to somehow abstract leaves to the football, television and newspapers.

We women have already received our freedom, our superiority. Man long time are not the strong but the weak floor. And sexual minorities are the majority. Where to next? And then, in the opposite direction. If we want our children to be happy, family, strong and reliable, we have to explain everything.

Let's try to do it.

1. Imagine that your husband (boyfriend, lover, lover), is facing a difficult choice (for example, there is no money for a taxi and it is late), do not reach for the purse to give him 10 dollars, and  do not pay for the car. The man he is! Let him prove himself. He, and he alone is responsible for his decisions. Let come up with a solution myself. Otherwise, he will feel a jerk. 

2. Try to negotiate with him all the joint actions (leisure, work, vacation), and if your opinions are commonplaces, look for a compromise and do not hit him with your "right" reasons.

3. Do not rush to do anything. Understand that you are a woman. You were made for a perfect (probably because it has no one to create beautiful, as all women in the workplace, there are so many homosexuals, as a substitute). Your companion - getter, you - the keeper of the extracted. Remind him about it, and remember yourself.

4. Never among the people do not abuse him and do not tell him what to do. It demeans anyone, not just men.

5. Do not discuss your family  relationship with my mom . Mothers tend to then criticize their sons-in-law. Would you be pleased if his father discussed you?


Raise your chosen one as courageous man.  You want that his strong arms wrapped around your fragile shoulders. So you want to live with him and be like a stone wall. I want to walk down the street with his arm, and proud when other women stare at your masculinity and stately Apollo. But for the fact that everything was just so in our time we need to string up. Two centuries ago, you would not have thought about it, but now have. 
Give him the opportunity to make decisions for your family or for both of you. 
Give him the opportunity to realize himself as a man. 

He will love you more than anyone else, just for the fact that you do not destroy, but rather became his muse.