Learning to be a QUEEN!

Dear, dear, loved  women! Most of you live alone, or with the unloved person, or frantically rushing in search of happiness ... You are - scared, confused and disappointed with life. Are you looking for support in this crazy world, but you're too weak to understand:
ONLY SUPPORT, THAT THE PERSON CAN TRUST - is himself.

You so want to be weak, bury your nose in the man's shoulder and to be a little girl, which mighty and the adult male will protect against all adversity, will love and tender care of her all life.

THROW THIS  CRAP OUT OF YOUR HEAD!

Even the parents do not have to take care of you all your life, and do you expect from a stranger that would take the baton from them?

It's time to grow up. And it means - to accept responsibility for everything that happens to you. Threw a beloved? Do not whine, do not feel sorry for yourself and think - why it did not happen the way you planned? And were you planning to do something? Or, once again, relied on the "fate"? 


 THERE IS NO FAILURES - ONLY A LESSONS

Each person can achieve what he wants if clearly decides WHAT he needs, HOW he can reach it and STOP  EXPECTING from the the WORLD FREEBIE.

You do not expect that someone will come and bring you money? You get up in the morning and go to work. As it is necessary to act with respect to the rest.
Start with yourself. Start with some small things. Teach yourself to be happy - always, regardless of the circumstances. DARE to be yourself. 
Tell yourself it does not matter, even if I do not meet my man in my entire life , I still: will get a lot of pleasure from intercourse with men, will test all pleasures of sex, give birth to the child ...



In general - I will do what I want. THIS IS MY WORLD!

And, believe me, you will have all that and much more of what you want to be done. World - rich and generously gives oneself to the one who knows how to enjoy it!

You are - WOMEN. You are are valuable itself. Doubt? Go out and flirt with any man. How he would be delighted! You say; oh, well, opening, understandably what these peasants want from us. Exactly! You initially have something that gives you value in society. But men have to make EVERYTHING ourselves. Use your feminine charm, to bring joy to themselves and men.


Be self-confident women. Not a bitch, not a maid, not a work colleague, but - the Queen of World.

The key to all of this - in FLEXIBILITY. Rubber hose can be tie a knot - and still he remains himself. Learn how to be flexible - and then you no longer have to wait until someone will choose you, you will be able to choose YOURSELF most pressious for yourself.


Your KING.

The area of freedom

She does not depend on age, passport or certificate. It is possible in 15 years to win the European Championshipor you can in 25 - to sit on the neck of the parents. So instead of waiting for some kind of offensive magic hour, after which you will become independent woman - studing these text, force yourself to change, and make a choice in favor of your road.

Learn to agree

I presume you occupy a big stubbornness. If you have decided that right after the New Year you with Adam  get married and go away to the Arctic - to lift the fallen penguins (they themselves can not stand up, if topple), so - so be it. And let the world does not waste time on empty persuasion, but rather help you to pack in a suitcase ipod and woolen socks.

Who are we fighting for?

With the senseless obstinacy. If you take the trouble to at least five minutes to listen close, you may realize that in some ways is to agree with them. For example, in what is now the most important thing for you -  study. And the Penguins and Adam can easily wait. Maybe in a couple of years, you do not want to lift the Penguins but breeding Labradors,and with Will in New Zealand.

Phrase-wand

With adults: You have convinced me. It seems so really would be better.
With her: You know, you seem to be right. I'll have to try it.

Learn how to argue

To compromise - not means being a weak-willed. Teacher loudly asserts that the chipmunk - is bird, and you're willing to nod his head, hoping for relief in the exam? Ugh, how embarrassing. But even worse, if you are in a hurry to agree with everyone just to please and get liked .


With whom are we fighting for?

With the lack of character and a tendency to grovel. Divide your inner beliefs into areas and once for all decide - what are you willing to sacrifice for the sake of others, and what - no. For example, no one will ever convince you to try drugs or steal something. This is an area of ​​strong and unquestioning "no." In all other cases, the need to make a decision is based on the situation.

Bonus:

A person who knows how to be calm, firm and arguments to say "no" - it's a strong person. Such a man nowhere will be scared, want to be friends with and are afraid of enmity. Spineless sycophants slide in a dark corner. But bear in mind - the art of saying "no" to train better not on your grandmother who asks you to take out the trash, but on the friend, offering to smoke, "one such magical marijuana from Jamaica."

Phrase-wand

With adults: Sorry, but this is against my principles!
With your: Smart people do not do that.

Learn to recognize the errors

Not mistaken only one who does not do anything. All fail from time to time tasks, break the rules, disrupt the timing and do not hear the alarm.There is nothing wrong with errors. Bad if you're acting like a dopey kid who tries to blame the broken cup, and eaten jam on the innocent cat.

With whom are we fighting for?

With cowardice.

Bonus:

If you itself without waiting for debriefing, say that was mistaken, no one will trample you underfoot. You probably even scold no one will. Because people who recognize their mistakes are the only strong and upright men. And there are always respected by all. The main thing - do not forget to fix your own fault. Who broken a vase, is the one who sweeps up the pieces.

-Phrase-wand:

With adults: Sorry, but it seems that all I brought. What can I do to make as soon as possible to rectify the situation?
With your: I'm sorry, I did not mean it, I promise. Let's try to fix it?

Pimp optimism

No one likes moaners and pessimists, . You would take in exploration (to the team, to work) a person who drags everyone behind, afraid of challenges and moreover hoots like an old gloomy owl, that all is lost?

With whom are we fighting for?

With blues and laziness. Just do not stick humus - from optimism to enthusiastic idiocy If you and your friends get lost in the woods, do not rapidly be glad that you can make some glamorous skirts of mugs and get acquainted with a snow man. Tell better to everyone  not to panic, change the shoes (dry and wet socks needles spoil strayed karma) and look at the north side of trees. The idea is that it should be covered with moss. In the meantime, people having fun, call the Ministry of Emergency Situations and calls the professional reinforcement.

Bonus:

Optimistic, confident person automatically becomes a leader in any company.

Phrase-wand:

With adults: I love challenges. They encourage me.
With your: Come on, everything will be fine! I know how to handle the situation!

What will help you quickly become an independent?

1. Foreign languages.

Bison them, and even better - love. A man who simply says at least one foreign language - is the embodiment of freedom and independence. You will not get lost in any country of the world, read more books (translated by no means the best), you will have advantages in hiring and in the choice of the gentleman.

2. Travel.

Buy a ticket at a travel agency can anyone. Learn how to plan your trip by yourself - choose the route yourelf, order tickets and book hotels, chooses travel, country and city. You do not notice how you will visit entire planet, make a bunch of friends and a million precious memories.

3. Internet.

There are not only the horoscope, diet and abstracts. Internet - it's your personal freedom - the freedom to buy, to vote, to travel, to believe. Make your site, start your own blog - and not full of stupid hearts and syusyami about Tokio Hotel, but a real, serious. Try to convince the thousands of people that you are serious, adult, and you have something to say to the world. It may well be that the world will indeed be interesting to listen to you.

4. Work

No matter - the pizza, the waitress, the courier, Jr. Assistant Secretary. At your age, any job - is important and honorable, because - first in life. Believe me, the need to perform adult responsibilities and adapt to the team quickly will be deprive you of infantile quirks.

I myself!

1. Responsibilities.


Own  responsibilities that everyone has an independent and an adult. For example, shift on your fragile shoulders all invoices that come to your home. If you do not trust the money and important forms? By the way, this is a very sad occasion for thinking.

2. Money.

Establish usually defer 10% of any amount in the precious envelope. No matter - this is permanent or casual earnings 500 dollars donated by your aunt about passing the exam or little thing you are given out to pocket expenses. The main thing - 10% should go to the stash. If you do not have the courage to gut the envelope for a year, you'll get a major award - out of nowhere a substantial sum that can be spent on all sorts of joyous frenzy. And, of course, the title of the Most Intelligent and Independent in the World Girl.

3. Pet.

Again, it does not matter - to whom exactly do you bring down a wave of tenderness,

responsibility and care. Hamster, puppy, baby brother, cactus named Athanasius - all of them wither without your help and warmth. Nothing makes a man independent as quickly as the need every day - regardless of the mood and the weather - take out, bring water or filtered water thoroughly someone young and defenseless.

Feminism - evolution or degradation?

Somehow, I came up with a theory that I decided to live the next 1000 years. It sounds like this: a man - was created by nature to meet women's needs and for procreation. It goes without saying that this "brilliant" idea visited my head after the man's offense? I think not. After a while, the offense gone, but I look at the men continued to hold enemy. And not a little effort it took me to get rid of the military spirit. I have been possessed by clean water of Feminism.
If you understand the nature of feminism, it turns out it has a lot of ways to sprouting in the female mind. It could  be raised by mother  (or the one who brought up the girl), it may appear on the grounds of resentment, and perhaps for self-improvement.

So what is feminism than, what it has bad and good ?

Now it is fashionable to be a feminist. If your girlfriend tells you that in her house husband is the boss, and she is on vocals, and you wonder, rebelled, and, of course, tell you that it should not be like this. Slogans: "We are women - stronger than man", etc., is so ingrained in our lives that seem to be so always, there will be. The fight is not long for equality between men and women, and for the superiority of women over men.  And if earlier there was  that the man on the prowl, and the woman in the cave, now a man at work, and the woman, also on the hunt, and at work, and in a cave-anywhere and everywhere.  Naturally, the woman gets tired a lot more. After work, she runs home, but not to rest, but to work! What nonsense, say, men! Is household chores, such hard work! The absurdity is that the woman continues to do these things every day.

Why,  nowadays we can not be relied completely on the man, and to do their - women's responsibilities? Is it because men are now less hardy, more steressed and soft? True-that men can not see! Where are they? Extinct with the dinosaurs? No. We, the women them destroyed. By our tremendous power that is within us. In the wrong direction, we sent our greatest potential. Instead, it would be ideal to carry out our mission - keeper of the hearth and distributor of love, we push, both morally and physically male population to prove ... To each his own, but what is the result ? When a man takes you by the hand, you do not think about the beautiful evening, but the marriage contract that will protect you and your children, if this man will leave you.

Pros of feminism sure everyone finds itself, but the cons are more clearly expressed. We have ceased to educate the courageous men. Why is this happening? Because our boy who grows up and takes the basics of life in the family sees where dad did not play the leading role, but only the executive. He goes to work, takes out the garbage, watches TV and reads the newspaper at the time, as a mom, like a squirrel in a wheel, doing all for the welfare of the family. A man can not be realized in the family.  No one will givesuch an opportunity to him ! What might be the realization? A hanger in the corridor is not screwed! That's right, poor boys, see, what men really. As you consider what your family will get a baby? That's right! The same! Dictatorial wife, who will nag him for everything and never give praise, because it would undermine its men's health. A men are not men for a long time, they perish under the pressure of women's oppression. If the man is not being implemented as a man, he dies.

First, from the inside and then outside. I sometimes met with these women who complained about their husbands: he does not do anything around the house! He is such a kind of reptile-only football or his computer is busy! What about me ? And the children: For us it does not have the time! And you imagine how many times you come to a place where you say you're a fool? Probably more than never, right? And your spouse have nowhere to go. He has responsibilities and you have children together. So he goes home with his head down and to somehow abstract leaves to the football, television and newspapers.

We women have already received our freedom, our superiority. Man long time are not the strong but the weak floor. And sexual minorities are the majority. Where to next? And then, in the opposite direction. If we want our children to be happy, family, strong and reliable, we have to explain everything.

Let's try to do it.

1. Imagine that your husband (boyfriend, lover, lover), is facing a difficult choice (for example, there is no money for a taxi and it is late), do not reach for the purse to give him 10 dollars, and  do not pay for the car. The man he is! Let him prove himself. He, and he alone is responsible for his decisions. Let come up with a solution myself. Otherwise, he will feel a jerk. 

2. Try to negotiate with him all the joint actions (leisure, work, vacation), and if your opinions are commonplaces, look for a compromise and do not hit him with your "right" reasons.

3. Do not rush to do anything. Understand that you are a woman. You were made for a perfect (probably because it has no one to create beautiful, as all women in the workplace, there are so many homosexuals, as a substitute). Your companion - getter, you - the keeper of the extracted. Remind him about it, and remember yourself.

4. Never among the people do not abuse him and do not tell him what to do. It demeans anyone, not just men.

5. Do not discuss your family  relationship with my mom . Mothers tend to then criticize their sons-in-law. Would you be pleased if his father discussed you?


Raise your chosen one as courageous man.  You want that his strong arms wrapped around your fragile shoulders. So you want to live with him and be like a stone wall. I want to walk down the street with his arm, and proud when other women stare at your masculinity and stately Apollo. But for the fact that everything was just so in our time we need to string up. Two centuries ago, you would not have thought about it, but now have. 
Give him the opportunity to make decisions for your family or for both of you. 
Give him the opportunity to realize himself as a man. 

He will love you more than anyone else, just for the fact that you do not destroy, but rather became his muse.

The theory of savings or how to love yourself

Many women often indulge in many things. In the expensive cosmetics, in manicure, a spa salons, or even easierin the new winter shoes or extra pair of underwear. There is a contrast, another type of women who do not save on itself absolutely. And what they can spend on myself . Who's right, from these two types of ladies?
Once, in a conversation my friend said the following sentence: "When I smoke expensive cigarettes, I have things go well, the profits itself swims in hand. When the class of cigarettes goes down as slowly and sluggishly go my business."

I thought about it. About the point of psychology. If this friend of mine dose not smoked but ate chocolate, his words were the same, only the word "cigarette" would be replaced with the word "chocolate".


I do not know about you, but for some time I ever scrimped on myself. And that felt like something between the homeless and the poor. Then of course I did not know what makes me a vision of myself. And then, my mother once told me: "Never save on yourself, because then you will go all your life in tatters."

And I abruptly changed my attitude to the economy. I really went to the store and bought a perfume that cost forty times more than before I was able to spend over a month. Wow! I'll tell you how strongly I flew in my own eyes. I felt expensive. Even though I did not go on the red carpet at the Cannes festival, but felt like it was so.

After I thought about it. I already had that to compare, and I realized you can save money on yourself, but with the mind. If my salary is about 5000 UAH I certainly can not spend over 4000. And if you subtract the bills, pay for food, etc., what would be left? Only money on travel. And yet, every month, you need somewhere to buy something, but please yourself. Every economist himself, and everyone is aware of how much money he has, and how much he can spend. But the calculations for embezzlement, must necessarily be a column "for personal use".

How does it work?

When we allow ourselves to get what we need to improve self-esteem, we begin to grow in our own eyes. We begin to feel more important, loved, popular. A, respectively, and for others we become such. This affects our communication with people. If you've been notorious, thanks to its purchase (things or servants, does not matter) your systems are aligned and gradually become invisible. Therefore, communicating, you begin to open up more, smile more, and that attracts people to you. As rapidly growing fast and your career. Although, by whom and where you work, your business will succeed.

One model, once said: "The big money is easy to earn, and small - hard." She said this with confidence, because once she was poor, and worked as a waitress for a pittance. And over time, become famous and rich.

There is a theory that says that in order to achieve something, you must now experience a sense of joy from what has been achieved desired. Simply put, start today to rejoice over the fact that you have a million that you are the most charming that your children are the most talented, etc. It's not all seem a simple task, because not all girls know how to be the most beautiful. Not all men will be able to experience sensations owner of an expensive car. And out of this situation is the easy way out. We all probably ever got in a beautiful salon car, or someone told us, how do we enchanting. It is necessary to remember these feelings and experiences. Remember and be able to bring them into the present. Learn to enjoy what is not, but really want to. This creates a power of attraction and thereby becomes valid desired.

I'm not saying thatyou should live only in dreams Of course, the need to continue work towards achieving your dreams. But not always the answer comes to us it.

It is important to remember that there are such things as our psychological jams. Day after day, someone sits down and rides the subway to work. And every day, he sees the sick and the poor, who are held there. A luxury and a decent life, he sees only in passing expensive and upmarket shops, hotels and clubs. This is the effect of habituation. He was used to his social place, and even if he does not like, he does not move.


In order to change this, change and familiar way. Not always, but sometimes go to work by taxi. Of course, it is much more expensive, but it "catches up to you are important." Not always, but sometimes, it is necessary to do an expensive gift. It also helps you to feel like a king or queen. Let all your things will be a second-hand, but one is Versace.

It is important that climbing to the ladder of success should be gradual. Let us again take the example of machines. If you have a lifetime rode the subway and suddenly boarded a limousine, you will overcome the confusion rather than joy for their achievements. Because it is important to go through all the stages of recovery: Metro - bus-taxi - his first car - a road car.

So, we can summarize that saving on itself but with the mind. Of course, on the way to the top you are waiting many pitfalls, which will be known only to you. And I did not say anything about them just because everyone has their peaks. And their obstacles on the way. But do not be afraid of it. It's like riding a bike. How many times to fall, then to boldly go? And in life we fall down, but get up and move on, gaining experience and becoming only more intelligent. But let bygones be bygones......

The scandal or disease. Give vent to emotions.

Here again you are not happy with his behavior or act. And you know perfectly well that rolled up a tantrum or just starting to clarify the relationship will lead to weekly odds or even complete silence. But resentment or grudge is not going away. They remain in you, and will be looking for a way out. And if, emotional release is not there, you will start get sick. And as hard as you accumulate a lot of negative emotions in yourself.

So what to do? Should you at every opportunity, express to him your "unsatisfaction", moreover, accompanied by screams, tears and snot? What sane man will delayed near a woman who with or without suit scandal. Although certainly there are also fans of extreme sports, and they may just looking for these ladies. But if your partner is is not like it how to behave?

I propose to weigh everything. First, let's understand what will happen to us if all the time to hide their feelings. Any not expressed emotion, without exception, must find a new habitat. And she finds it in your body. Every emotion is always settles in a certain place. Therefore, therapists can knowing your chronic illness, can  paint to you the desises of yourwhole life over the past 10 years. And you can, and most importantly, learn how to work with it. Work - not in terms of going to work, but a plan of ridding yourself of excess cargo.


Let us consider, where do enter our unexpressed emotions. So:

1. Eyes. Here live the emotion of fear.

2. Mouth. People suffering from ailments in this area, often holding back their feelings.

3. Chest. Sometimes it hurts or you can feel heaviness - this suppression of laughter or sadness.

4. Diaphragm - enduring intense of anger or rage.

5. Abdomen - here run away fears of a possible aggression. Did it happens that when you feel an attack from someone's side you have a felling of twisting in your stomach?

6. The pelvis - the suppression of anxiety or anger.

Here they are, these mysterious places, though, and are described briefly. After all, we know how many there diseases. And they are all, without exception, related to our emotions.

And so. Emotion has found a place "where to" and from there begins to drill a hole. The more emotion in this place we send, the more they drill a hole. And what we then? We then go to the doctor and ask for a tablet. And she burst into this hole and will have through the rectum. In general, there is no escape! Upset? Do not be sad. The output, of course, there is.

Let us return to the case of a loved one. To swear or not? Maintain a healthy relationship with a sick bodyor you can vice versa?


Did you know that what you do not like your partner, it is the reflection of what you do not like in yourself. Or, that's what you are missing. Well, for example, take the most common marital unhappiness - festivities. Spouse may be washed down to death out of jealousy of the faithful husband. Why? Because she is, in secret, even to herself, assumes that can go for treason. And the fact of betrayal of her husband is known, and his wife is fighting (!) with this for many years, but did not go away from such unfaithful, then maybe that's the kind of man she needs.  And she eats it, just because of the fact that she for whatever reason, does not betrail him.


All at once will not describe. It's a fine science, and you need to work with certain people. Then you better know what do you want again to trample your lover in the ground. So, the next time, in such a situation, analyze - it brings pleasure to you? I say that because of what you want to create a scandal. The husband did not call or came too late? You meet him with a frying pan. He did not buy milk. Are you looking inundated with a rolling pin. And in the end, it fell reptile home drunk ... No such weapons in your home!
And how do you situation, if it did not? He came at six, as promised on the phone 15 minutes ago. Brought straight from the tin milk and immediately ran out the trash. And when a neighbor offered to drink beer, he kicked him in the ass kicked out of your home. And your partner will do as you wish. And you will not have the slightest reason to  drive yourself some bad emotion.

So what? What could be better? Scandals and happiness, or calm and ... death in one day.

And the best part is that you will choose for themselves. Of course, the quarrel should take place. Even quarreling with broken crockery and torn curtains. Only the children had not seen or heard of. This will help you to get rid of not only the mutual resentments and misunderstandings, but also throw off the burden of working everyday. But it should not be offensive to him or you. Had a fight - and then kisse. Interestingly, when a pair of scandals,has discredits, not blowing lips, the relationship growing. And if they said to each other two offensive words and went to sleep in different rooms, it lasts a few weeks, these relations smell like exclusion.

Swear sometimes. Once every two weeks. And all the other days of learning to understand yourself and your partner. Sometimes it is only just to say, you know, I'm sorry, when you go out with friends without me. Perhaps he thinks that you are bored in their company, so you do not pull back. And it never occurred to him, then why you are yelling at him?


A struggle against the accumulated emotions can be carried out independently. Do yoga or exercise, it helps, but not always relieve. You can go into the woods, and scream that negativity to nowhere. You can laminate the attraction, after which you will not remember your name for a long time, too, will remove stagnation. And even an ordinary change of scenery - is treated.

And that emotions do not accumulate, you need to solve the situation immediately. He came too late, but you boil. Tell him you're angry and walk away. And then themselves sit down and analyze - why you are angry. Because you can not do so yourself or because it does not take into account your interests? And find the answers to your questions , and tell him the result. Male appreciate your understanding. More often smile to him.

To live in harmony with each other is a big science. But only mastered its intricacies, we can learn to live in harmony with other people around us.