The area of freedom

She does not depend on age, passport or certificate. It is possible in 15 years to win the European Championshipor you can in 25 - to sit on the neck of the parents. So instead of waiting for some kind of offensive magic hour, after which you will become independent woman - studing these text, force yourself to change, and make a choice in favor of your road.

Learn to agree

I presume you occupy a big stubbornness. If you have decided that right after the New Year you with Adam  get married and go away to the Arctic - to lift the fallen penguins (they themselves can not stand up, if topple), so - so be it. And let the world does not waste time on empty persuasion, but rather help you to pack in a suitcase ipod and woolen socks.

Who are we fighting for?

With the senseless obstinacy. If you take the trouble to at least five minutes to listen close, you may realize that in some ways is to agree with them. For example, in what is now the most important thing for you -  study. And the Penguins and Adam can easily wait. Maybe in a couple of years, you do not want to lift the Penguins but breeding Labradors,and with Will in New Zealand.

Phrase-wand

With adults: You have convinced me. It seems so really would be better.
With her: You know, you seem to be right. I'll have to try it.

Learn how to argue

To compromise - not means being a weak-willed. Teacher loudly asserts that the chipmunk - is bird, and you're willing to nod his head, hoping for relief in the exam? Ugh, how embarrassing. But even worse, if you are in a hurry to agree with everyone just to please and get liked .


With whom are we fighting for?

With the lack of character and a tendency to grovel. Divide your inner beliefs into areas and once for all decide - what are you willing to sacrifice for the sake of others, and what - no. For example, no one will ever convince you to try drugs or steal something. This is an area of ​​strong and unquestioning "no." In all other cases, the need to make a decision is based on the situation.

Bonus:

A person who knows how to be calm, firm and arguments to say "no" - it's a strong person. Such a man nowhere will be scared, want to be friends with and are afraid of enmity. Spineless sycophants slide in a dark corner. But bear in mind - the art of saying "no" to train better not on your grandmother who asks you to take out the trash, but on the friend, offering to smoke, "one such magical marijuana from Jamaica."

Phrase-wand

With adults: Sorry, but this is against my principles!
With your: Smart people do not do that.

Learn to recognize the errors

Not mistaken only one who does not do anything. All fail from time to time tasks, break the rules, disrupt the timing and do not hear the alarm.There is nothing wrong with errors. Bad if you're acting like a dopey kid who tries to blame the broken cup, and eaten jam on the innocent cat.

With whom are we fighting for?

With cowardice.

Bonus:

If you itself without waiting for debriefing, say that was mistaken, no one will trample you underfoot. You probably even scold no one will. Because people who recognize their mistakes are the only strong and upright men. And there are always respected by all. The main thing - do not forget to fix your own fault. Who broken a vase, is the one who sweeps up the pieces.

-Phrase-wand:

With adults: Sorry, but it seems that all I brought. What can I do to make as soon as possible to rectify the situation?
With your: I'm sorry, I did not mean it, I promise. Let's try to fix it?

Pimp optimism

No one likes moaners and pessimists, . You would take in exploration (to the team, to work) a person who drags everyone behind, afraid of challenges and moreover hoots like an old gloomy owl, that all is lost?

With whom are we fighting for?

With blues and laziness. Just do not stick humus - from optimism to enthusiastic idiocy If you and your friends get lost in the woods, do not rapidly be glad that you can make some glamorous skirts of mugs and get acquainted with a snow man. Tell better to everyone  not to panic, change the shoes (dry and wet socks needles spoil strayed karma) and look at the north side of trees. The idea is that it should be covered with moss. In the meantime, people having fun, call the Ministry of Emergency Situations and calls the professional reinforcement.

Bonus:

Optimistic, confident person automatically becomes a leader in any company.

Phrase-wand:

With adults: I love challenges. They encourage me.
With your: Come on, everything will be fine! I know how to handle the situation!

What will help you quickly become an independent?

1. Foreign languages.

Bison them, and even better - love. A man who simply says at least one foreign language - is the embodiment of freedom and independence. You will not get lost in any country of the world, read more books (translated by no means the best), you will have advantages in hiring and in the choice of the gentleman.

2. Travel.

Buy a ticket at a travel agency can anyone. Learn how to plan your trip by yourself - choose the route yourelf, order tickets and book hotels, chooses travel, country and city. You do not notice how you will visit entire planet, make a bunch of friends and a million precious memories.

3. Internet.

There are not only the horoscope, diet and abstracts. Internet - it's your personal freedom - the freedom to buy, to vote, to travel, to believe. Make your site, start your own blog - and not full of stupid hearts and syusyami about Tokio Hotel, but a real, serious. Try to convince the thousands of people that you are serious, adult, and you have something to say to the world. It may well be that the world will indeed be interesting to listen to you.

4. Work

No matter - the pizza, the waitress, the courier, Jr. Assistant Secretary. At your age, any job - is important and honorable, because - first in life. Believe me, the need to perform adult responsibilities and adapt to the team quickly will be deprive you of infantile quirks.

I myself!

1. Responsibilities.


Own  responsibilities that everyone has an independent and an adult. For example, shift on your fragile shoulders all invoices that come to your home. If you do not trust the money and important forms? By the way, this is a very sad occasion for thinking.

2. Money.

Establish usually defer 10% of any amount in the precious envelope. No matter - this is permanent or casual earnings 500 dollars donated by your aunt about passing the exam or little thing you are given out to pocket expenses. The main thing - 10% should go to the stash. If you do not have the courage to gut the envelope for a year, you'll get a major award - out of nowhere a substantial sum that can be spent on all sorts of joyous frenzy. And, of course, the title of the Most Intelligent and Independent in the World Girl.

3. Pet.

Again, it does not matter - to whom exactly do you bring down a wave of tenderness,

responsibility and care. Hamster, puppy, baby brother, cactus named Athanasius - all of them wither without your help and warmth. Nothing makes a man independent as quickly as the need every day - regardless of the mood and the weather - take out, bring water or filtered water thoroughly someone young and defenseless.

Feminism - evolution or degradation?

Somehow, I came up with a theory that I decided to live the next 1000 years. It sounds like this: a man - was created by nature to meet women's needs and for procreation. It goes without saying that this "brilliant" idea visited my head after the man's offense? I think not. After a while, the offense gone, but I look at the men continued to hold enemy. And not a little effort it took me to get rid of the military spirit. I have been possessed by clean water of Feminism.
If you understand the nature of feminism, it turns out it has a lot of ways to sprouting in the female mind. It could  be raised by mother  (or the one who brought up the girl), it may appear on the grounds of resentment, and perhaps for self-improvement.

So what is feminism than, what it has bad and good ?

Now it is fashionable to be a feminist. If your girlfriend tells you that in her house husband is the boss, and she is on vocals, and you wonder, rebelled, and, of course, tell you that it should not be like this. Slogans: "We are women - stronger than man", etc., is so ingrained in our lives that seem to be so always, there will be. The fight is not long for equality between men and women, and for the superiority of women over men.  And if earlier there was  that the man on the prowl, and the woman in the cave, now a man at work, and the woman, also on the hunt, and at work, and in a cave-anywhere and everywhere.  Naturally, the woman gets tired a lot more. After work, she runs home, but not to rest, but to work! What nonsense, say, men! Is household chores, such hard work! The absurdity is that the woman continues to do these things every day.

Why,  nowadays we can not be relied completely on the man, and to do their - women's responsibilities? Is it because men are now less hardy, more steressed and soft? True-that men can not see! Where are they? Extinct with the dinosaurs? No. We, the women them destroyed. By our tremendous power that is within us. In the wrong direction, we sent our greatest potential. Instead, it would be ideal to carry out our mission - keeper of the hearth and distributor of love, we push, both morally and physically male population to prove ... To each his own, but what is the result ? When a man takes you by the hand, you do not think about the beautiful evening, but the marriage contract that will protect you and your children, if this man will leave you.

Pros of feminism sure everyone finds itself, but the cons are more clearly expressed. We have ceased to educate the courageous men. Why is this happening? Because our boy who grows up and takes the basics of life in the family sees where dad did not play the leading role, but only the executive. He goes to work, takes out the garbage, watches TV and reads the newspaper at the time, as a mom, like a squirrel in a wheel, doing all for the welfare of the family. A man can not be realized in the family.  No one will givesuch an opportunity to him ! What might be the realization? A hanger in the corridor is not screwed! That's right, poor boys, see, what men really. As you consider what your family will get a baby? That's right! The same! Dictatorial wife, who will nag him for everything and never give praise, because it would undermine its men's health. A men are not men for a long time, they perish under the pressure of women's oppression. If the man is not being implemented as a man, he dies.

First, from the inside and then outside. I sometimes met with these women who complained about their husbands: he does not do anything around the house! He is such a kind of reptile-only football or his computer is busy! What about me ? And the children: For us it does not have the time! And you imagine how many times you come to a place where you say you're a fool? Probably more than never, right? And your spouse have nowhere to go. He has responsibilities and you have children together. So he goes home with his head down and to somehow abstract leaves to the football, television and newspapers.

We women have already received our freedom, our superiority. Man long time are not the strong but the weak floor. And sexual minorities are the majority. Where to next? And then, in the opposite direction. If we want our children to be happy, family, strong and reliable, we have to explain everything.

Let's try to do it.

1. Imagine that your husband (boyfriend, lover, lover), is facing a difficult choice (for example, there is no money for a taxi and it is late), do not reach for the purse to give him 10 dollars, and  do not pay for the car. The man he is! Let him prove himself. He, and he alone is responsible for his decisions. Let come up with a solution myself. Otherwise, he will feel a jerk. 

2. Try to negotiate with him all the joint actions (leisure, work, vacation), and if your opinions are commonplaces, look for a compromise and do not hit him with your "right" reasons.

3. Do not rush to do anything. Understand that you are a woman. You were made for a perfect (probably because it has no one to create beautiful, as all women in the workplace, there are so many homosexuals, as a substitute). Your companion - getter, you - the keeper of the extracted. Remind him about it, and remember yourself.

4. Never among the people do not abuse him and do not tell him what to do. It demeans anyone, not just men.

5. Do not discuss your family  relationship with my mom . Mothers tend to then criticize their sons-in-law. Would you be pleased if his father discussed you?


Raise your chosen one as courageous man.  You want that his strong arms wrapped around your fragile shoulders. So you want to live with him and be like a stone wall. I want to walk down the street with his arm, and proud when other women stare at your masculinity and stately Apollo. But for the fact that everything was just so in our time we need to string up. Two centuries ago, you would not have thought about it, but now have. 
Give him the opportunity to make decisions for your family or for both of you. 
Give him the opportunity to realize himself as a man. 

He will love you more than anyone else, just for the fact that you do not destroy, but rather became his muse.

The theory of savings or how to love yourself

Many women often indulge in many things. In the expensive cosmetics, in manicure, a spa salons, or even easierin the new winter shoes or extra pair of underwear. There is a contrast, another type of women who do not save on itself absolutely. And what they can spend on myself . Who's right, from these two types of ladies?
Once, in a conversation my friend said the following sentence: "When I smoke expensive cigarettes, I have things go well, the profits itself swims in hand. When the class of cigarettes goes down as slowly and sluggishly go my business."

I thought about it. About the point of psychology. If this friend of mine dose not smoked but ate chocolate, his words were the same, only the word "cigarette" would be replaced with the word "chocolate".


I do not know about you, but for some time I ever scrimped on myself. And that felt like something between the homeless and the poor. Then of course I did not know what makes me a vision of myself. And then, my mother once told me: "Never save on yourself, because then you will go all your life in tatters."

And I abruptly changed my attitude to the economy. I really went to the store and bought a perfume that cost forty times more than before I was able to spend over a month. Wow! I'll tell you how strongly I flew in my own eyes. I felt expensive. Even though I did not go on the red carpet at the Cannes festival, but felt like it was so.

After I thought about it. I already had that to compare, and I realized you can save money on yourself, but with the mind. If my salary is about 5000 UAH I certainly can not spend over 4000. And if you subtract the bills, pay for food, etc., what would be left? Only money on travel. And yet, every month, you need somewhere to buy something, but please yourself. Every economist himself, and everyone is aware of how much money he has, and how much he can spend. But the calculations for embezzlement, must necessarily be a column "for personal use".

How does it work?

When we allow ourselves to get what we need to improve self-esteem, we begin to grow in our own eyes. We begin to feel more important, loved, popular. A, respectively, and for others we become such. This affects our communication with people. If you've been notorious, thanks to its purchase (things or servants, does not matter) your systems are aligned and gradually become invisible. Therefore, communicating, you begin to open up more, smile more, and that attracts people to you. As rapidly growing fast and your career. Although, by whom and where you work, your business will succeed.

One model, once said: "The big money is easy to earn, and small - hard." She said this with confidence, because once she was poor, and worked as a waitress for a pittance. And over time, become famous and rich.

There is a theory that says that in order to achieve something, you must now experience a sense of joy from what has been achieved desired. Simply put, start today to rejoice over the fact that you have a million that you are the most charming that your children are the most talented, etc. It's not all seem a simple task, because not all girls know how to be the most beautiful. Not all men will be able to experience sensations owner of an expensive car. And out of this situation is the easy way out. We all probably ever got in a beautiful salon car, or someone told us, how do we enchanting. It is necessary to remember these feelings and experiences. Remember and be able to bring them into the present. Learn to enjoy what is not, but really want to. This creates a power of attraction and thereby becomes valid desired.

I'm not saying thatyou should live only in dreams Of course, the need to continue work towards achieving your dreams. But not always the answer comes to us it.

It is important to remember that there are such things as our psychological jams. Day after day, someone sits down and rides the subway to work. And every day, he sees the sick and the poor, who are held there. A luxury and a decent life, he sees only in passing expensive and upmarket shops, hotels and clubs. This is the effect of habituation. He was used to his social place, and even if he does not like, he does not move.


In order to change this, change and familiar way. Not always, but sometimes go to work by taxi. Of course, it is much more expensive, but it "catches up to you are important." Not always, but sometimes, it is necessary to do an expensive gift. It also helps you to feel like a king or queen. Let all your things will be a second-hand, but one is Versace.

It is important that climbing to the ladder of success should be gradual. Let us again take the example of machines. If you have a lifetime rode the subway and suddenly boarded a limousine, you will overcome the confusion rather than joy for their achievements. Because it is important to go through all the stages of recovery: Metro - bus-taxi - his first car - a road car.

So, we can summarize that saving on itself but with the mind. Of course, on the way to the top you are waiting many pitfalls, which will be known only to you. And I did not say anything about them just because everyone has their peaks. And their obstacles on the way. But do not be afraid of it. It's like riding a bike. How many times to fall, then to boldly go? And in life we fall down, but get up and move on, gaining experience and becoming only more intelligent. But let bygones be bygones......

Intergated personality or someone's half?.

Each of us have heard the legend of the halves of walking around the world in search of each other. We hope that coming to wrap a handsome prince, it was she (the second half) will make us deeply happy. And desperately looking for the perfect man to save us from ourselves. 

Forget! 

First, the woman radiating fluids despair does not attract the opposite sex. Second, the search for the ideal - employment fairly stupid. With blinders on the eyes, you will look for the mythical person , whose image is formed by past experiences and prejudices of society. Burn your list of qualities of the ideal man and feel by the heart each of the candidates, not hanging a label through reason. And most importantly, do not wait to find someone who will make you happy, that someone is you, yourself. Relationships will not save you. Each of us - whole person, inside which there is everything to be happy. External able to awaken in us a state for a moment. True happiness comes from the ability to enjoy every moment of life ..

We emphasize two types of failed relationships: 

1) A woman enters a "business contract" with the man, hoping that he would kill in her the sense of loneliness, will fill the inside, will satisfy the needs and requirements. 

2) The woman is totally committed to the relationship, dissolving in a man, forgetting about her friends and hobbies. 

In both cases, the man is the lifeline that helps to get away from myself, from the depth of feelings and experiences. Relations are necessary, especially for the spiritual evolution of personality to reveal the full sense of love, compassion, warmth, which is already in us. Right now start living as a complete person, radiating love, and you will attract into your life or have  another whole different look at the man (before you looked on him as a half), which is close to you .

Your skin needs an instant lift?

A woman without age - you will make instant lifting at home.
Mix 3 teaspoon of white clay, 1 teaspoonof honey and 3 tablespoons of  milk, put a lot of dense layer to cleansed skin. Lie down, to completely relaxation of muscles. After 20 minutes, rinse with warm water and pat the skin dry and apply your favorite moisturizer.

After 10 minutes, until it is completely absorbed, may be applied a festive make-up, but I'm sure you will not need any powder or foundation, because after this mask, your skin will glow!

If you are in the fight against cellulite for some reason did not help any massages and body wraps, you can try this peeling. I recommend the procedure to do a test on a small area of skin.

The recipe of the mixture:

Take a good 0.5 liters of water, 250 ml of alcohol or vodka, 1 tablespoon with the top of sea salt, 20 drops of iodine. Mix everything and store in a cool place.

Wet scourer (such as loofah) in the solution and rub the whole body. Without wiping her, to give it to dry.
Use daily until the disappearance of cellulite.

To hell with the prejudices! Take everything out of life!

Is it possible to feel happy every day? What do you need to fell this?

In part, this is a philosophical question, because the understanding of "happiness" everyone has their own. But there are moments of female psychology, given that you will be able to enjoy and celebrate life to the fullest.
Let's find out together !

Women are unique!Nobody can  predict our behavior, thinking, or mood . Thousands of factors may affect our state of mind. Men often joke on our logic, but we perfectly understand each other :))

So, what settings prevent us from being happy?
I'll tell you about three of the most common ...








The first installation, "I will like myself when losing weight,'ll grow long hair and etc ..."

Perhaps reading these lines, you will smile and think, "What nonsense!" - Yes, I agree! But to be honest with yourself, you remember how many times have you said it yourself? Maybe it's sitting in your head right now?


Love yourself for what you have created nature. It is our otherness and it makes us unique and attractive for an individual.

Long hair - will not bring change to your life and will not "guarantee of happiness." A brand or exclusive things do not change the course of the party and will not affect the outcome of the date!


It is all about our inner feelings and a sense of fullness of life "here and now".



Think about it! Than you are ready to close for a year and limit yourself with communication until the hair does not grow back, or the body will not get the desired shape?? Do not you go to a party where you could meet her future husband, if you do not have a suitable dress??

Happy women do not expect that tomorrow everything will change. They live in the present, let go and thank their past for the experience, and make plans for the future.


Life is not so long, it is fleeting! And each year allegedly accelerated, especially after 30-35 years. That is why it is important to learn how to live the "here and now".


Focus on that date - this is the most important and interesting of what deserves your attention. Today - a whole life! Try to enjoy it and remember every moment of what is happening, no matter how long your hair is and how close your weight is to ideal .


The second unit, "My life will be better, brighter and more interesting when I will meet a man!"

Really? Of course not!

Men looking for the woman who will give them a certain inner state. In order to do this, we must be able to be happy with yourself, you need to be able to fill their own lives brightness!

Try to find inspiration in everything that surrounds you: the rays of the morning sun to read a book full of charm!

Only your fascination and inspiration of life are able to charge and inspire man.


By the way, one of the most important statements: "similar attracts similar" - very important when choosing a life partner. If you are happy, active, friendly, interesting and vibrant woman, then the man who would be next to you will be about the same.

The third setting, "What will others think?"

This setting is ingrained in many of us, as a "good girl syndrome" that has plagued 72% of women from childhood.

Many of us are looking for matches with the expectations of others, rather than to focus on the sensations. We are going through because of the fact that society can condemn us.

For example: women who have experienced a divorce, a long time (a year or more) believe that totally unneeded and the people around them look at them differently. They are afraid to voice their new status, not to get a conviction and a negativity in his address.

Some of the girls rush to get married in 20-23 years, not having any experience men only because they are afraid to remain "old maids."


Girls, stop! What is important is not a stamp in the passport, it is important to be close to loved ones, reliable and loving man who is willing to support you and take care of your family!

In this case, it does not matter how many years it will happen and what kind of men you have to communicate.

Take a look at the behavior, thoughts and actions on the part of ... And try to honestly answer the questions:

Is this like YOU or so would like your mom / friends / society?
When are you going to do something about what you are thinking, what others think about you or what it will give you?
Is it more important to live in harmony with each other, or be good for others?
Answers to these questions will help you better understand yourself.



I am truly convinced that be good for all IMPOSSIBLE! That's because many people, so many opinions - some with us is easy, with the other nothing at all glued, even talking about the weather ...

So why then, to kill your time in the pursuit of the correspondences and the expectations of others?

Listen to your needs and wishes, follow your dreams, even if they seem to all complete madness!

Only joy and satisfaction of knowing that you are doing what you want it to you, will give a feeling of happiness fullness of life!

Do not chase the templates! Stay yourself!

Smart people will always understand you and will take for who you are. Stupid and lazy to explain useless - still condemn! So do not waste your time on these people your time, focus on yourself and your happiness!



Remember, your time is priceless because it can not be returned!

Practice of "World filled with love."

During the life, every person has a lot of feelings, both positive and negative. We have seen a lot and now in our memory there are a lot of particles of different things and events. Some people in my life are good and bright, learning difficulties in their life, and there are those who have become meaner and colder.

Many people have not learned to trust yourself and feel lonely and abandoned.

But we should start to work on yourself, then the world will change at once and colors get brighter. Of course, all this is not for one moment, it will take some time to see all these changes. The main thing is not to stop and go through the planned and everything will be even better than you realize.

It is good that there are power within us and open our hearts, awakens in us the love inside.


I propose to share that love with the people that surround us, because surely there are among them those who are now ill and need help.

Let's take them all with love and appreciation and wishes of happiness, surround them with warmth and care.

Let's share your love with those who are now scared and had nowhere to go for help with those who have no roof over their heads, with those who have been hurt.

Let us present your love to everyone, even if they do not accept it, the main thing to know that giving up our love can no longer cause pain and suffering. We give it sincerely and without delay a response.

Put your heart into our planet and all living beings, even those who hurt us, and in whom we are very disappointed. We will give them the love that they have found the strength to find out what they really are - the good and loving.

Then take a look at our world, there reigned in peace and quiet. Everywhere there is harmony and beauty.

And know now there is your credit. Rejoice in the fact that you can do good, and you have the opportunity to make someone happy.

Each of us - a beautiful fairy who changes the world and gives her love. You are beautiful. Keep this in mind always.

I wish you a sincere love and joy.

With love to you,

Zhen-Shen

Do you want to work an Angel?

Now in the time of global change, each person can contribute to the improvement of life on earth. Become - Angel, one who fixes the negative with the help of her love, her being constantly in flux.

You tell me, that sounds nice, but how this can be done in our busy lives, when time itself is not really enough.

Of course, it is a big responsibility and work, Angel can not be everyone, but only the one who woke up and began to live consciously and took responsibility for their lives.

Such a person is trying to cleanse the soul from the negative, blocks, resentment, guilt, claims and expectations. And he does it consciously, watching himself and the world.

You probably know that everything around us is a reflection of ourselves, and looking at the world you can understand with what you need to work in itself.

Many people do not want to be aware of this and are trying to blame someone else, but not themselves that a lot of negativity in their lives. In this case, we can only advise to wake up from this illusion and actually begin to see everything that happens to us.

So, you ask, what is the work of an angel?

I will write to you on the day of the main tasks for the angel

1) Waking up in the morning, say and feel the love for yourself and all that surrounds you. This can be done like this: "I love myself. I love everything that I have in my life. I wish you all happiness and joy. " It is advisable to keep this promise throughout the day. Then you will notice how everything around is transformed, and miracles happen, because your spirit attracting love and joy.

2) In the family send love to all family members, especially those with whom you have a complicated relationship. Even during an argument say that you love them. You can not do it out loud, but to myself. After all, our family relationships are particularly important for us, they contribute to the most deep study of our internal problems.

3) During the day, seeing any negative or tension in the surrounding people or circumstances send love out of my heart, sincerely and unconditionally. Externally, it does not appear, but the internal work is done on the subtle plane. This will convert the negative into the light. What contributes to love many times. People to whom you are sending love, become kinder and deeds they went well. Negative circumstances are resolved faster and more smoothly. The world is getting better.

Here are such easy at first glance angel tasks you can perform, transforming not only your lives, but the world as a whole. And the more we have, the greater will be the light and love in our world.

The most important thing is that this work helps us to solve uor problems and to help people. It's so cool.

Remember, we are born Woman, and therefore we carry the love and beauty in this world. Now it is necessary to do so consciously.

Do you want to work with an angel?

Let's share your thoughts about this work in the comments.

With love to you, 
Zhen-Shen

How to become a beloved woman

Falling in love with yourself, and then you fall in love with the whole world! This is the motto of the units in our world, but actually it works. Psychologists say that the better woman refers to herself, the more attention she attracts from the opposite sex. So, to be truly loved, you need to learn how to pamper yourself.

Self-love and narcissism - different concepts. Love - is, first of all, the adoption of yourself for what is, but not simply admiring your own reflection. Have a respect for your body, thoughts and actions. Only when you realize that everything in life - ideally, the world begins to change in the best possible way.

My body is perfect

Shape of the eyes, hips, height, figure, color of hair each has its own. Even the appearance of twins have differences. And it is time to learn to be proud of, rather than trying to become an ideal, imposed by society.

Modern standards of beauty are very specific. Glossy magazines, television and fashion designers claim that there is a certain standard of beauty, which is called the "ideal". And everyone on the planet has to strive for it. But to achieve this goal - it means getting the same "as all". How much this is true? Somehow, millions of women feel that you need to do so.

Perfect appearance each has its own. But there are several compelling elements: well-groomed skin, beautiful hands, tightened muscles and a dazzling smile. To be beautiful, you need to take care of yourself, take care of every part of the body.

A woman can be charming and without the skinny figure, can conquer the hearts even without hair on hук head. The fact that it refers to herself. Love of self begins with a touching concern for the body. You need to take the figure as a given. And no need to customize it for standards, just start to care for herself. A manicure, do not forget about the masks. You should start with a regular facial and neck, but it's best to remember all the body. Dedicate yourself more time, pamper your skin with nice creams, body wraps and massages. Love yourself and appreciate. And the more time you devote to this task, the more you will get admiring glances from others.

I Think and do everything right

You should love not only your body but also your actions and thoughts. In psychology, there is a unique statement, which has helped thousands of people get out of depression: "At the moment I made the best way for yourself. I chose the best solution to a situation that could have been. "Let it become your statement axiom. Perhaps then you will come to mind the idea that it was possible to do something different. But nothing can be changed, and therefore, it is necessary to go further.

Allow yourself to live, do not waste time on regrets and digging into the past. Not worth going to sleep, think about how you could do that. It's a waste of time. Enough sorry! In the future you will do even better, but in the past, you were right. It's your life, you can go for it as you wish.

Give yourself the right to be wrong. Even if something does not add up, do not worry. There are no people who always do everything perfectly. Just let yourself do not control everything, let go of the problems that you still can not decide.

To learn how to relax, use the meditation. They may be very different, it is important that this process is called a sense of comfort and relaxation. Someone is trying to stop the thoughts, someone sings a mantra, and some people choose meditation with the words to the imagination to present the manner described. Choose your method. Some people prefer active relaxation. Sometimes, running, swimming, exercise at the gym,  give a discharge. Look for something that will give pleasure, you are eligible for the ease, joy and serenity.

Relax - this is important

Relax - it's a human right. And it's a way to show love for yourself. Just need to rest properly, without remorse. Day off will never bring lightness, if you are constantly thinking about what did not have time to do. If there are ideas in the mind of the commitments will not find comfort.

In order to properly relax, you need to solve the problem. First way: go on vacation or on a weekend, when all is done, when it is not another report, no need to remember about the partners and the authorities. If all can not be forgotten, you need something to finish, do not think about it constantly. Determine for yourself hours or days when you do not accept to work. This is a solution: it's time to rest - will be the right one. Deny yourself during this period even reminisce about their problems. For their solution find a different time, and rest - is inviolable.

Relax - it's time for yourself, not for cleaning or washing. Of course, home care can help to relax, but it is better to rest for real. Do only what you like. Someone will be active, while others simply will sit at the TV for hours. But it is important not to abuse yourselves, and admit that I like now to do just that. Give yourself permission to do nothing. Let this be a regular ritual - spending some time as you want, not the way you need or others want.

Loving yourself can be different. There are lots of ways to begin to realize their dreams, desires to indulge. Start not from the very large, such as buying a bouquet of flowers. A further is is easier to reach other ambitions plans. Appetite comes with eating!

Find your own FAIRY TALE

You would think that in the choice of your path you are free from any kind dependencies. That you are freestyle bird and fly wherever you want, do what you want, think about what you want, and say what you want. Yes, yes, of course! That's right! Only in this way is only in your imagination, because you like to think so. In fact, every person is enmeshed in strong network of a variety of relationships: the moral, physical, physiological, psychological, emotional - mass sometimes not even recognized them as such. Because we are using them from childhood.

We are often completely enslaves public opinion and the burden of stereotypes, their own misconceptions and expectations that model of life that we once drew for ourselves once and for all, and follow it religiously.

We used to live in a strange tale, which selected for our life as a benchmark trying to play the unusual role and make completely foreign acts.

Well, for example, the role of a guy like Prince, and he is actively into this role and the suit itself selects and adjusts the expression, respectively, and the princess looks. Well, or at least a frog, but always be magical to know how a princess in which case quickly reincarnated. After all, as they, the women, kicked off the frog's skin, and forward, arms swinging right and left eyes and shoot him, prince, seducing the full program on the right path and teach.
Came up, he came up with, but  not pulling the poor guy as much as the role of the Prince in any way. And our "prince" looks like as ogre. By theprofile and vocabulary. Princess Give to him! No, better a queen!

A princess who dreams of being in the white stone houses with tiled sparkling pool and garden outside the villa, too, imagine messed up fairy tales. And actively learning the role of Snow White , although her ​​brain convolutions are exclusively engaged in the study of hunting areas and rules of the "pickup" of the planned object.

But in principle, Both other people, in general, quite good. Each in its own way. Just do not play their games. And maybe in their only on foreign soil. And when you're in a foreign field, that you seem to be bumps and hills and pits - chasms, and in general the climate is not suitable. Because you're from the North that is ...
Simply put, not getting something. It seems everything is the way you came up, and the legs of the nedded length, and eyes have the color you want, and even voice, smoky with a husky. And, imagine, even a house, but without the pool, but on the beach. And everything else is almost convergent. But it dosen't give you warm, NOT AT ALL!

But why? Because it is not your's! Because you invented all about what you really need, and the very person of yours missed, overlooked, passed by, blurry your own eyes with unrealistic expectations. Then suddenly recalls ...

But too late. You're already playing this tale "fortissimo" in full, go to church, you married the father, forced to kiss the cross. All forever linked by a single network of mutual obligations, dependencies, expectations and disappointments.
"What can we do to that?" - Yelling your inner voice that finally cut through, when drugged brain cleared and tuned in to your real needs.
But do nothing. Live!

Try to live in "your" fairy tale itself and with those characters, which you have! Better late than never! And what happens! suddenly you really wake upSnow White , dropping past mistakes and misconceptions. And in your instead of orge you will attain the Prince. Who knows! In life everything is mixed.

Well, if you have not "got into trouble," that is not found your fairy-tale characters, do not rush to paint himself the image of his lover's hard, based on the words of mother and grandmother, a neighbor on a staircase or friends. They have their own way, and their "princess", and you have your own. But to understand them, to recognize, to feel and "articulate" for yourself you will be able only when you will dismantled in your "inside world".

STUDY YOURSELF!  What you like (not because everybody likes, but because you like it), what is your soul, with whom to you pleasant,dressed immaculately, knowing five languages, and do not be silent for a moment, self-sufficient, or simply a snob and a shy bespectacled, cute, embarrassed and do not hide your weaknesses.

To each their own! Understand this simple worldly wisdom, and Do not look at foreign princes. Occupying someone else's place, one can never be truly happy. Whatever the castles of your dreams he has surrounded himself not. Perhaps this is the most difficult thing in the world, to understand yourself through. But it's worth it! Because it can minimize the amount of unfulfilled expectations that did not materialize, as a rule, lower us to the dark depths of internal frustration, doubt and despair.
What for?
That we learn to accept yourself and your life in the version that is available to us at the moment as the most suitable, because it corresponds with our needs, and our nature, and spiritual impulses, and level of development.

To live in the fairy tale - a pleasure!

You may ask: "How to understand your or not? What if you're wrong? Do not play hide and seek with you in your clever brain? "
Yes, the truth is that he is able to get up to us such things, it is amazing! And if you do not give take the trouble to figure out how he brings to you a wraith and do not learn how to put it into place, you will be doomed for life and live in a strange tale.
There is one universal way to check "your" or is not "yours", to identify yourself with yourself, that bring into full compliance with your internal needs and external displays, balancing all the "pros" and "cons."

This process consists of a complete stop, knocked out of the mind and the inclusion of the heart, the soul, feeling, intuition. Many people have no idea what a powerful force has their soul, who is able to read the information on a thin invisible plane. To them all this chatter seems sheer nonsense.
But even in extreme moments of their life, outside comes the most important things, they can feel the power of the inner prompter. And to say, "Yes, there is something there!"

If you find it hard to trust intuition, if you feel a vague uncertainty, and you're afraid to make a mistake, advise with reality. And the reality will prompt you to correct guesses in the most concrete and specific way.

What we do with pleasure, with joy, that responds to the most important and warm inside of us, what we do and satisfying. This is the most it! Do not discard it as useless. Holite it and cherish, multiply, increase, reinforces this feeling.
And then you feel the same call of the heart, which intuity know better than on logical calculations of consciousness.

Listen to it and follow it, this call, and then you finally will find your story, will not take someone else's place and become happy!

You are - the star of the party

Even the most timid person can feel at ease in any place and at any time, subject to a number of simple rules and a little pre-preparation - says Leil Lowndes, a recognized expert in the field of psychology, communication, bestselling author of "How to talk to anyone about anything . "

Before the event:

Imagine that all this has been
Consider that your task - to play a major role. So spend a dress rehearsal in advance. Imagine how you pacing (impeccable posture, as if someone pulls you up the rope) as smiling with a warm smile (work-out in front of a mirror), hear how confident you are talking to other people and, most importantly, feel the pleasure of knowing that you - in great shape, and people are drawn to you.

Find your "something"

Do not make potential friends suffer, inventing an excuse to come to you. Carry anything unusual that could be a topic for conversation.

Work on image

Show consideration to the choice of attire. If you think that the "dress sits very personal, especially if you draw the belly and do not turn sideways," it is better to put it aside. Otherwise, the entire party will torment you two questions: "So, whether you're standing," and "Is it enough to strongly pulled abdomen." In such a condition is no place for interesting conversations and enigmatic smiles. Pay special attention to shoes. No doubt, the heels visually lengthen the legs. But in order to have noticed it,you will have to move on them , not to prop up the wall! Meanwhile walk "of the tribe," and not from the hip can ruin any beauty.

Achieve 100% confidence

Allocate sufficient time to become perfect. A person who does not need to worry because the nails are not in the best condition, to brow hands have never reached, one eye somehow made ​​up slightly differently than the second, and underwear too tight bites into the body, it is easier to communicate .

Agree with yourself

In order not to be jealous about liberated ladies, preconceived strategy and tactics of behavior. Tell yourself that you are invited to a party, not your restraint, shyness and embarrassment, so that all these qualities will have to stay home and wait for your return.

If verbal persuasion does not help, create a written order on the same topic. Consider this magical changes that have to happen right at Christmas time.





In the beginning of the party:

Use the method of the "Old Friend"

As a rule, people value not only your words, but also how they are told and the tone you use, in what position you are. To make your cues not contradictory the language of your body, imagine dealing with a stranger, that he - your old friend (old love), with whom you have not seen for a long time. And just today, you each have met again. These pleasant feelings will start a chain reaction throughout your body - from the subconscious softening look to the turn of the body.

Use the method of the "Flowing smile"

Take your time to smile to everyone, as if just received from them a huge amount of money donated. Instead, carefully look into a person's face for a few seconds. Try to feel his personality. And then give him a wide warm smile that flows out of your eyes. Pause, which you stand will convince the person to whom you are smiling that smile of yours is sincere.

During the event:

Avoid one word answers

Your conversation even with the nice man can end, barely begun, if he would have nothing to add to what you say. Try to construct sentences so that the other party also had something to say. For example, the question "Where are you from" answer "from the Southern Butovo" is not enough. Nice to add that such a significant and interesting (not for you, but for someone with whom you speak) is in the area. If a male athlete - advice him to visit a good sports club, a banker tell about the lack of additional offices. Your task - to give him an opportunity to comment on your remark .Then, when he says something clever in response to your bait, will take you to as an excellent conversationalist.

Connect the other guests to the conversation

Engage in the conversation of those who like and am glad to join your circle, but does not know how to do it. People are always drawn to those who are interested in themselves. Imagine that you are shining spotlights around in your power to direct their light - try to make sure that their beams visited all who are close to you.
And, most importantly - remember the effectiveness of a smile. If your goal - meeting with a man, then keep in mind the results of research scientists from the University of Missouri.
Female researcher established visual contact with the guinea men who drank while sitting at the bar in the local nightclubs or drinking establishments. In some cases, the gaze of women scholars that was accompanied by a smile. In other cases, they did not smile. "The highest percentage of attempts to establish contact - 60% - was observed in the case where, among others, non-verbal signs of the present interest, a smile."

What can we learn from "bitch"?

Just a couple of centuries ago was called a bitch dead cattlerather than beautiful, energetic woman. Today,  very few people remember this, but the word itself is almost a compliment.
Of course, the bitch - an ambiguous character and the hero is not very positive, but there are things that you can learn from her.

1. The ability to keep a man "on a short leash"

After some (sometimes rather short) time after the wedding, an ordinary woman often finds that succeeded in the quest to be nedded for the husband so that his feet rubbed her neck. With a bitch this embarrassment does not happen - with her "not spoil" at any time she can throw anything. No matter how long a bitch with a man - the feeling of being prey to "catch", you can relax, and then switch to another object - it is unlikely to arise. Its unpredictability - a type of fuel on which "works" male instinct. Bitch looks like a "black box" Russian nesting doll at the same time - to know in advance what is inside, is almost impossible.

2. The desire for perfectionism

In this bitch is always the best (at least, from the fact that she can afford), she will never regret over the money and effort, do not compromise with the toad, which, as is known, is the most frightening animal on earth because often stifled. Why bitch can afford it? Solely because she deserves it! One can not imagine her with black heels, a hunched back, sagging belly or faded bra strap every now and then falling from the shoulder, as she herself strives for perfection.

3. Love for yourself

The nice bitch - no doubt about it, and so typical of women throwing soul on "Was I can love?", "For what I was born into the world?" Or "I can not afford it", "Lucky everyone but me" . She loves herself for what it is - from the heels to the crown, likes simple: by definition, without reservation. Bitch instinctively or consciously resorted to the proven formula of "failures - is good luck, you only have to look at them from a different angle," makes beastliness of ham and presents disadvantages as advantages. Bitch saves a lot of time thinking what to buy in the first place: the next cell to her husband, griddle for mother-in  or a new scratcher with turbopodduvom for cats ... of course,  she will go to the store just to buy something nice to herself.





4. Dignity

Bitch never sacrifice dignity in order to maintain the relationship. No effect self-consolation, "He is  inferior, but mine" or "Better him than one." Options "and that would" absolutely not suited to it. She instinctively feels that the most important person in her life that will be with her from the first to the last breath - it is herself, and that person needs love, no less than the others. "Do not cave in to the changing worldbetter that he sag under us," -  this covenant bitch follow today.

5. The ability to be herself

People who are indifferent to bitch, almost none. But bitch, indifferent to the opinions of others, and reliable "grafted" from the syndrome of, "Oh, what will they think," is full. Men look after them with admiration, and women feel soulless selfish (though at heart often envy). However, the bitch can hold a person staunchly attacks from jelious and their principles, unlike men,  never change.

The successful and free: how to be a loner

Many people think that "loner" and "lonely" - is synonymous. But is it really?

Yes, at times it may be true - who of us from time to time is not sobbing into a pillow at the thought that He only perhaps have already came - and gone?

Smug news from happily married friends, too, can be a source of stress and self-doubt. But in both cases it is important to remember that:

1. Your friends will show the public only public mask - that is the most positive aspects of their relationship.
2. It does not matter what they say about the inextinguishable sex: they still have to watch him floss, and maybe even let gases continuously.
3. Life in a pair - not vaccinated against loneliness: remember, you were just lonely  with a former boyfriend?
4. Feelings - a passing thing. Sometimes I also think that tomorrow morning, wake up a little kitten would be great, but it passes.

Five rules of success

• Support other women, regardless of the status of your relationship

Women are the toughest critics of other women. Do you condemn, in silence, style of your colleagues, curve a sly lips over her choice of food, not to mention a boyfriend? Stop doing it, damn it! Nobody makes it no better, least of all - your self-esteem: so if you're secretly judging others, you begin to suspect paranoid that they condemn you, too. So, with regard to women in your life - be a good friend when they heartbroken, and be able to genuinely rejoice when they meet the beautiful people.Critic aside: in general, when we criticize each other, we are projecting onto others our own insecurities. The next time you catch yourself on this, pause and think for a moment do you judge by yourself? Would you be angry  if someone told you the same thing? That's where the food for thought is ...

• Do not let the bastards upset yourself

Unfortunately, it's a fact of life that you can not change: people are tactless and pry into other people's business. Modern alone people face a lot more to learn how to behave in such interactions than willing to make them disappear. From time to time some idiot friendly will ask you when you think "to settle down." Do not take this as an excuse to hide in the closet or roll up the scandal. You're too good for that.

Battle cry of Singles - Independence: romantic,
 intellectual, financial, dressing room

• Conduct business and have an active life

Have a lot of cases. Meet people. Engage in fun, exciting activities. Love your work. Never puncture a hole in your life in the form of the male silhouette, then to spend the time, eagerly peering into it. To all those for whom you need to worry, do not care, with how many people you show up in public. If you are unable to go to the toilet without being accompanied by a squadron of support , guarding your every move, now is the time to break the habit . Go to the movies, be engaged in some activity, dine out at home ... alone. Go on vacation - solo. If you ever thought deep down that no one gets involved in a relationship (or supports) simply because they can not tolerate being alone (or, even worse, you're accused of this) - then this is especially important.

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• Be independent, both emotionally and financially

There is a stereotype that does not want to die - stereotype hunter for money. So, even though the image accompanying this sentence is laughable (Gucci, bling, five-inch heels, a tan from the "Tango"), the reality is much more pervasive and subtle. Hoping to go to half-time, when zavedesh family? Uh ... but you can ask who will pay for it? You think you're supposed to equal share in the ownership of any future home, even if your husband earns more? Again, think again about the subtext: equality otnosheniy.To, you're a woman - not a good reason to expect that other people will provide you. If someone offers to help - accept it with gratitude. But do not treat her for granted, laid you on the right. It's great to feel loved and adored. Much less cool - to create the impression ungrateful when people really did love you and adore.

Emotional independence is running on the same level. Any of this shit, "you  complete me" - what's that? Many women seem to consider perfectly acceptable to postpone their own happiness to the moment when we'll see the Prince Charming (and then fall into a stupor when he looks around, assess opportunities and dumps in an unknown direction.) Well, what do you want! Did you experience that you could drive to the man who would take you by the hand and began to look into the eyes and sincerely-confidential report that the meeting with you - the happiness that he had always dreamed of? No, damn it! This is a one-way ticket to the city Stalkervill.

• Be honest

Ability, which is quite a lot of women do well - is the suppression of their feelings in order to give pleasure to other people. It is not only harmful - it is irritating. You may think that you are calm, unruffled and control yourself - when, to be honest, you act awkward and insincere. So it is critically important to be as honest as you can. But not to the point, you know, when it becomes rudeness. Honestly determine what you feel, and said aloud boundaries of behavior that you expecte from others, but do not tell that person all through  is bad and wrong.

"Guide to Men" Belle de Jour (c)