Even the most timid person can feel at ease in any place and at any time, subject to a number of simple rules and a little pre-preparation - says Leil Lowndes, a recognized expert in the field of psychology, communication, bestselling author of "How to talk to anyone about anything . "
Before the event:
Imagine that all this has been
Consider that your task - to play a major role. So spend a dress rehearsal in advance. Imagine how you pacing (impeccable posture, as if someone pulls you up the rope) as smiling with a warm smile (work-out in front of a mirror), hear how confident you are talking to other people and, most importantly, feel the pleasure of knowing that you - in great shape, and people are drawn to you.
Find your "something"
Do not make potential friends suffer, inventing an excuse to come to you. Carry anything unusual that could be a topic for conversation.
Work on image
Show consideration to the choice of attire. If you think that the "dress sits very personal, especially if you draw the belly and do not turn sideways," it is better to put it aside. Otherwise, the entire party will torment you two questions: "So, whether you're standing," and "Is it enough to strongly pulled abdomen." In such a condition is no place for interesting conversations and enigmatic smiles. Pay special attention to shoes. No doubt, the heels visually lengthen the legs. But in order to have noticed it,you will have to move on them , not to prop up the wall! Meanwhile walk "of the tribe," and not from the hip can ruin any beauty.
Achieve 100% confidence
Allocate sufficient time to become perfect. A person who does not need to worry because the nails are not in the best condition, to brow hands have never reached, one eye somehow made up slightly differently than the second, and underwear too tight bites into the body, it is easier to communicate .
Agree with yourself
In order not to be jealous about liberated ladies, preconceived strategy and tactics of behavior. Tell yourself that you are invited to a party, not your restraint, shyness and embarrassment, so that all these qualities will have to stay home and wait for your return.
If verbal persuasion does not help, create a written order on the same topic. Consider this magical changes that have to happen right at Christmas time.
In the beginning of the party:
Use the method of the "Old Friend"
As a rule, people value not only your words, but also how they are told and the tone you use, in what position you are. To make your cues not contradictory the language of your body, imagine dealing with a stranger, that he - your old friend (old love), with whom you have not seen for a long time. And just today, you each have met again. These pleasant feelings will start a chain reaction throughout your body - from the subconscious softening look to the turn of the body.
Use the method of the "Flowing smile"
Take your time to smile to everyone, as if just received from them a huge amount of money donated. Instead, carefully look into a person's face for a few seconds. Try to feel his personality. And then give him a wide warm smile that flows out of your eyes. Pause, which you stand will convince the person to whom you are smiling that smile of yours is sincere.
During the event:
Avoid one word answers
Your conversation even with the nice man can end, barely begun, if he would have nothing to add to what you say. Try to construct sentences so that the other party also had something to say. For example, the question "Where are you from" answer "from the Southern Butovo" is not enough. Nice to add that such a significant and interesting (not for you, but for someone with whom you speak) is in the area. If a male athlete - advice him to visit a good sports club, a banker tell about the lack of additional offices. Your task - to give him an opportunity to comment on your remark .Then, when he says something clever in response to your bait, will take you to as an excellent conversationalist.
Connect the other guests to the conversation
Engage in the conversation of those who like and am glad to join your circle, but does not know how to do it. People are always drawn to those who are interested in themselves. Imagine that you are shining spotlights around in your power to direct their light - try to make sure that their beams visited all who are close to you.
And, most importantly - remember the effectiveness of a smile. If your goal - meeting with a man, then keep in mind the results of research scientists from the University of Missouri.
Female researcher established visual contact with the guinea men who drank while sitting at the bar in the local nightclubs or drinking establishments. In some cases, the gaze of women scholars that was accompanied by a smile. In other cases, they did not smile. "The highest percentage of attempts to establish contact - 60% - was observed in the case where, among others, non-verbal signs of the present interest, a smile."
Before the event:
Imagine that all this has been
Consider that your task - to play a major role. So spend a dress rehearsal in advance. Imagine how you pacing (impeccable posture, as if someone pulls you up the rope) as smiling with a warm smile (work-out in front of a mirror), hear how confident you are talking to other people and, most importantly, feel the pleasure of knowing that you - in great shape, and people are drawn to you.
Find your "something"
Do not make potential friends suffer, inventing an excuse to come to you. Carry anything unusual that could be a topic for conversation.
Work on image
Show consideration to the choice of attire. If you think that the "dress sits very personal, especially if you draw the belly and do not turn sideways," it is better to put it aside. Otherwise, the entire party will torment you two questions: "So, whether you're standing," and "Is it enough to strongly pulled abdomen." In such a condition is no place for interesting conversations and enigmatic smiles. Pay special attention to shoes. No doubt, the heels visually lengthen the legs. But in order to have noticed it,you will have to move on them , not to prop up the wall! Meanwhile walk "of the tribe," and not from the hip can ruin any beauty.
Achieve 100% confidence
Allocate sufficient time to become perfect. A person who does not need to worry because the nails are not in the best condition, to brow hands have never reached, one eye somehow made up slightly differently than the second, and underwear too tight bites into the body, it is easier to communicate .
Agree with yourself
In order not to be jealous about liberated ladies, preconceived strategy and tactics of behavior. Tell yourself that you are invited to a party, not your restraint, shyness and embarrassment, so that all these qualities will have to stay home and wait for your return.
If verbal persuasion does not help, create a written order on the same topic. Consider this magical changes that have to happen right at Christmas time.
In the beginning of the party:
Use the method of the "Old Friend"
As a rule, people value not only your words, but also how they are told and the tone you use, in what position you are. To make your cues not contradictory the language of your body, imagine dealing with a stranger, that he - your old friend (old love), with whom you have not seen for a long time. And just today, you each have met again. These pleasant feelings will start a chain reaction throughout your body - from the subconscious softening look to the turn of the body.
Use the method of the "Flowing smile"
Take your time to smile to everyone, as if just received from them a huge amount of money donated. Instead, carefully look into a person's face for a few seconds. Try to feel his personality. And then give him a wide warm smile that flows out of your eyes. Pause, which you stand will convince the person to whom you are smiling that smile of yours is sincere.
During the event:
Avoid one word answers
Your conversation even with the nice man can end, barely begun, if he would have nothing to add to what you say. Try to construct sentences so that the other party also had something to say. For example, the question "Where are you from" answer "from the Southern Butovo" is not enough. Nice to add that such a significant and interesting (not for you, but for someone with whom you speak) is in the area. If a male athlete - advice him to visit a good sports club, a banker tell about the lack of additional offices. Your task - to give him an opportunity to comment on your remark .Then, when he says something clever in response to your bait, will take you to as an excellent conversationalist.
Connect the other guests to the conversation
Engage in the conversation of those who like and am glad to join your circle, but does not know how to do it. People are always drawn to those who are interested in themselves. Imagine that you are shining spotlights around in your power to direct their light - try to make sure that their beams visited all who are close to you.
And, most importantly - remember the effectiveness of a smile. If your goal - meeting with a man, then keep in mind the results of research scientists from the University of Missouri.
Female researcher established visual contact with the guinea men who drank while sitting at the bar in the local nightclubs or drinking establishments. In some cases, the gaze of women scholars that was accompanied by a smile. In other cases, they did not smile. "The highest percentage of attempts to establish contact - 60% - was observed in the case where, among others, non-verbal signs of the present interest, a smile."
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