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I am amazing! "Say these words out loud and confident. This is the second magic spell that can make wonders. You are - amazing! Believe it. Call in to help all of your previous experiences. After all, you have everything you need to be loved worthy man. And now we're just learning to use it "all" in practice.
Why do you not always feel like a woman, totally admirable? Just because you only see things coming through your mind resulting in a dense filter that transmits the light of day you just admitted the error, previous disappointments and all the moments in your life when you behave not in the best way. In other words, you see yourself in the distorted mirror , which helpfully delineates all of your flaws and shortcomings.
Are you , in fact so ugly? Of course not! And now we'll know why.
YOUR DISADVANTAGES ARE AMAZING
You are amazing! Of course, you are not perfect - how not immaculate are men worthy of your admiration . But that's why you are with them so well come to each other. You all - at the same time delicious and possess some imperfections.
By the way, let us look at ourselves disadvantages from a different angle. Certain imperfections make you interesting, different from all the others. It adds a special touch to your way of communicating with people. Whether you are perfect in all, you would lose that zest, which is the "face" of every person
Fortunately, you are not perfect. You are lucky! You have a direction in which you can achieve even greater excellence. So work in this area, work on yourself. Many women who are burdened by a lot of shortcomings, and continue to trudge through life cursing their evil destiny, but do not striking even lift a finger, in order to at least do something change yourself. But you will make required minimum effort and very soon make yourself a gift that you never dreamed of yesterday!
YOU - THE MAN FROM COHORT OF LORDS
Who are the people who buy books and videos with the procedures and guidelines on how to achieve self-help and heal their relationships with others? These are people who, sooner or later destined to achieve success in life and general well-being!
Successful people - people who seek to educate themselves no matter how deep is their acquired knowledge and life experience. Whatever success they may have achievedthey never lost the desire to achieve even greater prosperity.
Such people do not always show the willingness to accept given them halo of a person successful in life, who has nothing left that rest on their laurels. Rather, they see themselves as hard workers who continue to strive to achieve even greater success. Therefore, they continue to accumulate knowledge.
In this one you really like them. You do not want to waste your life flowed, condemning you as a blind puppy wallowing in the cycle of everyday problems. Are you looking for an opportunity to direct life back on track, and who seeks will always find!
You are not just a casual viewer, sadly watching how others find their happiness. You are - are potential winner. You actively seek to learn how to manage coincidence. This is exactly what distinguishes man who sooner or later good luck smiles.
As everyone else, seek to achieve a lifetime of success, you can not immediately take the lines that you would like to achieve, but you will always be much closer to dream, than would have been sitting back and waiting for the sea weather. And it's only because with all your flaws and imperfections
Nine times out of ten your relationship with a man is only a reflection of your relationship to herself. If you love yourself, others will love you to
To foster a respectful attitude to herself, you have come to the realization of a very important fact: you - the person and the greatest authority in all that relates to your own life. Keep this in mind at all times because this view determines the way you will be perceived by a man.
Become yourself best friend and assistant, you can following way.
Learn how to consider attractive everything that you have, simply because it is - yours. Treat sympathetic to itself and to the subject matter of your preference.
Learn how to defend your point of view, whatever it was. If you will refuse stand up for yourself, on whom you have to expect? Do not rush to agree with the chorus of critics that shower at you the accusations, blame and resentment. If the situation really requires it, perceive their point of view, but do it in such a way that the flow of criticism in your address has changed intothe expression of approval and courtesy.
Do not waste your whole life waiting for, "THE ONE", with the emergence of which everything will change around you once and for all. This man already so many years wanders somewhere close by and you can not find him. And sitting out all day at home, at work, unless you will make it easier to find him ? Of course not! And you have to make a maximum effort to this. So become closer to yourself for the time, "Not THE ONE ,"as well as several men,that are worthy of your admiration and are able to brighten up hours of your expectations.
Give yourself a little more kindness. I do not know what is the reason, but in every woman's life there comes a time when it seems as if it is completely useless. Do not believe this feeling, remember: you are needed first of all to herself
Dear, dear, loved women! Most of you live alone, or with the unloved person, or frantically rushing in search of happiness ... You are - scared, confused and disappointed with life. Are you looking for support in this crazy world, but you're too weak to understand:
ONLY SUPPORT, THAT THE PERSON CAN TRUST - is himself.
You so want to be weak, bury your nose in the man's shoulder and to be a little girl, which mighty and the adult male will protect against all adversity, will love and tender care of her all life.
THROW THIS CRAP OUT OF YOUR HEAD!
Even the parents do not have to take care of you all your life, and do you expect from a stranger that would take the baton from them?
It's time to grow up. And it means - to accept responsibility for everything that happens to you. Threw a beloved? Do not whine, do not feel sorry for yourself and think - why it did not happen the way you planned? And were you planning to do something? Or, once again, relied on the "fate"?
THERE IS NO FAILURES - ONLY A LESSONS
Each person can achieve what he wants if clearly decides WHAT he needs, HOW he can reach it and STOP EXPECTING from the the WORLD FREEBIE.
You do not expect that someone will come and bring you money? You get up in the morning and go to work. As it is necessary to act with respect to the rest.
Start with yourself. Start with some small things. Teach yourself to be happy - always, regardless of the circumstances. DARE to be yourself.
Tell yourself it does not matter, even if I do not meet my man in my entire life , I still: will get a lot of pleasure from intercourse with men, will test all pleasures of sex, give birth to the child ...
In general - I will do what I want. THIS IS MY WORLD!
And, believe me, you will have all that and much more of what you want to be done. World - rich and generously gives oneself to the one who knows how to enjoy it!
You are - WOMEN. You are are valuable itself. Doubt? Go out and flirt with any man. How he would be delighted! You say; oh, well, opening, understandably what these peasants want from us. Exactly! You initially have something that gives you value in society. But men have to make EVERYTHING ourselves. Use your feminine charm, to bring joy to themselves and men.
Be self-confident women. Not a bitch, not a maid, not a work colleague, but - the Queen of World.
The key to all of this - in FLEXIBILITY. Rubber hose can be tie a knot - and still he remains himself. Learn how to be flexible - and then you no longer have to wait until someone will choose you, you will be able to choose YOURSELF most pressious for yourself.
Your KING.
Men, for some reason always think that a woman own something to them have, and she should to them usually SEX. It is not clear where they get the idea that if he's on his own will buy you a cocktail, you owe him sex. If he asked you out to a restaurant, then you owe him sex. Even if you're just a very attractive and, God forbid, sexy, then you owe him sex. And if for you it is not yet clear, he by all means will give it to you to understand. Moreover, if in your mind was not such idea, you will be accused that you did badly, you used him and dumped him . It does not matter that he himself taken the initiative, it does not matter that nature has blessed you with beauty and intelligence, he still will blame you in his troubles .
Of course, can the immense male ego accept the fact that he simply was not good enough for you? No, that's impossible. He needs someone to blame for his failures and blame, of course, you .
If a woman that does not respond to the provocations of men, who knows what she wants, who sleeps only with those who really like her, but not with those who starts to put pressure on her, is called "prick tease " - then yes, I am the PRICK TEASE. If the compliance own interests, the ability to hold the position and insist on her own called "prick tease " - yes, the "prick tease " that is what we want.
No matter what anyone says about the equality of men and women, all of us are the same, we are different. We are too different to be identical. And what men find their weakness, most often their weakness is the female force. But in what men are strong, all too often destroys women. I do not want to be a man. What for? I'm not going to be a man, I will be better equal to a woman. And that is what makes me successful. Successful woman in front of which there is great potential. Be flexible - sometimes weak, sometimes strong, sometimes asking, sometimes insisting. Be different - sometimes funny, sometimes sad, sometimes clever, sometimes silly. But always be free.
Yes, men do not like such girls. And all because they want to impose on women a lot of obligations, to repair her for theirselves, to deprive their own will. "Prick tease " is free. She does what she wants and does not depend on men.
She is attractive and does not intend to pay for the complexes of men.
She does not render to them in dialogue and is ready to accept their admiration of herself.
But she will not step over herself.
She is independent. After all, only independent people can afford easily take the gifts of others - their attention, worship, gifts. For all you have to pay? You should, and you pay for - and she is independent from the conventions.
"Prick tease " is - a real woman, and she can achieve her goals by any means. If she wants, goes directly, and if not, there will always be a real man who will gladly do it for her. And they will not accuse her of being too attractive, or too sexy or that desirable. She is such as she was created, and this is only her merit.
When you say "me" what do you mean? Who is you, who is this "I", let's try to understand.
What can you say about yourself? Stop for a minute and think about it. Give yourself a definition. Do not be too philosophizing and think of complex designs. Try to define yourself in one word. "I am ...". I - the person. Well, frankly, indisputable statement. But what it gives you, what it tells you yourself or others? What do you have two arms and two legs. That you are omnivorous. That you possess intelligence. Good, but not too much, do not you think?
This game in the definition of itself can be continued. Who else are you ? "I - a woman / man" - here is, added another item. "I - a parent," "I - ...". The list goes on. Try it. How much do you have such determinations for yourself?
So, you are - all that is above. Each of these definitions imply some special features. From these onesis in many ways made up your unique and exclusive. Let's try to take the next step. Look at each of these "definitions". What it carries? What kind of information? For example, as I said, "person" - this, at least, bipedal mammal. More and reasonable, like. So, it turns out that for every image is a specific set of descriptions, but if you're talking about yourself, self-descriptions. Each of these characters has a certain set of features and, importantly, behaves in a certain way. Worker works, parent is raising a child, the driver is driving, and so on.
... You somehow identify with these characters and live the way they should live. This - at most (but not less than) are your roles. And these roles you try out myself. Some culling, some are leaving yourself. You draw yourself like a picture which shows who you are. And this inner picture helps you to be yourself. And the extra touches - it's your development milestones.
So, the picture shows who you are. And the artist - is you too. And no one else. notice this.
That is, of course, someone can to some extent affect you, and your picture will change something, but to apply or not to apply the new touches - it's up to you and no one else. In the end, your whole life - is the process of drawing pictures. Something to erase something to finish. But pencil and eraser are in your hand ...
This picture occurs in obedience to your wishes, short-term and premeditated. Sometimes it is the mood - and you suddenly throw a few extra features. And sometimes you take a long time of thinking, it is worth to once again touch the canvas and what you exectly need to fix in it or what to add. And what has been drawn, mind you, change yourself. You find yourself in a strange way connected with your own creation. You are becoming it. Those features that appear in the portrait, become your features ...
Let's go back to our game, we started with, remember? So, there are a number of roles. Do you accept them, sometimes consciously, sometimes not. And they become part of you. Knowledge of these roles, can tell you about yourself.
You - are, in a sense, a set of your own self-perceptions of ourselves.
You know your capabilities and limitations, advantages and disadvantages, isn't it? And this is the description - the most accurate portrait of yours. Who knows you better than you know yourself? The others? But they judge you just by your appearance. Your behavior - is just one side of the coin. After all, you yourself understand more what you're doing and why. And what not to do.
But know everything about yourself , probably is impossible. Or at least very difficult. You can tell only what you know and realize yourself because only that you realize himself, right?
For example, if you do not notice the fact that you are often greedy, you can not tell to yourself you can not say "I am mean." Sometimes it happens that a person knows that he is greedy and behaves accordingly. According to his representations about itself. As if he himself - that's what he thinks about himself. This is true, of course, not just about disadvantages. If you, for example, do not fully realize your potential, you too will not manage to tell anyone about it, even to yourself. The point here is not to boast. Quite different. In getting to know yourself ...
.. Because such knowledge has a special power. When you can judge yourself, anyway, you kind of get under the influence of these words, these judgments. They can help and hinder you, it all depends on the situation, what is going on in your life. The more roles you have, the more resources for self-description, the richer selection of what can be done.
People - being oh, what a difficult and ambiguous. Contradictory, we'd say. Sometimes it is difficult to predict its behavior. And even my own. So we create for ourselves description, which laid our properties and help us be ourselves. Otherwise too difficult. "I - a young and healthy, so I'll let the bus sit to the sick and the old people." This is quite natural and even necessary for the organization of at least some of our lives. Knowing what else you would expect from yourself certain actions in certain situations. Knowing yourself, you can do anyway. Your possibilities are largely determined by your self-perception is.
But, mind you, the same self-description can be a challenge. You need to do something that collides with your own ideas about ourselves. "I - polite and never rude to other people." It is the right and, like, a harmless plant can in fact do a good or a service. When, for example, bad people try to stick to you. But the person is so intrusive that dosen't pay attention to your polite persuasion . In such a situation, it seems necessary to get out of yourself. Come out beyond itself. Be something more than you can imagine.
Affirmations - are statements that are helping to change the way we think and create the future that we seek. But not only ...
Affirmations - the thoughts, words, feelings, and emotions that each of us use in everyday life. However, as we all know, we do not always use the positive but also negative statements. So first of all, if you want to change your life for the better with the help of affirmations, you should only use them in a positive way.
So how does it work?
Think about what you're saying? Count how many times a day, for example, you or the people around you pronounce the word "Nightmare!" and "Horror!" These words should be forgotten! Each time, instead of them say, "Happy!" If aloud so hard to do, you can say it to yourself. The main thing - to replace every negative pulse to positive.
Or, for example, the phrase of astonished man, "Wow!" does not hold water. Remember once and for all - "All of Me." And just so, then the well-being will walk as your shadow.
Our thoughts and emotions shape our lives and our surroundings. Remember that like attracts to itself similar . Negative thoughts attract negative events in our lives but fears and concerns necessarily materialize, since we have projected their ourselves. What do you think, that you become.
From the above we can make a remarkable conclusion: "The positive thoughts and emotions of love, happiness and enjoyment, will draw into our lives happy event and necessary to us people."
But for those who are convinced that it does not work. Let me explain that the affirmations can not work only in one case - if there is a conflict between what you say and who you really are. That is, if you think one thing, say another, and the third mean, your guardian angels are no longer able to understand what you want in reality. That is, if every day you say "I want a bag of money," and the subconscious mind responds to answer "Yeah, hee-hee, now will repeat 10 more times and get as many as two suitcases ... this theory does not work," of course, nothing will work . Because there is no specific goal. There is a simple "want".
The main thing - your positive attitude, a belief that you will succeed. Come first to harmony within yourself, and you'll notice that the world around you has changed. Changed as much as you wanted to.
First, any positive statement is formulated in the present tense or as an accomplished fact. Secondly, there should not be a particle "not".
Third, it should be directed only to a good cause and for the sake of goodness and love in the universe.
And one more thing, do not come true the desires which you think you want, but those whose performance your subconscious actually wants . So, do not be surprised if it comes true, what you so passionately wanted but were afraid to even think about it ...
Of course, I can cite the example of the great Louise Hay, who is the founder of the theory of affirmations. Despite the fact that she was born into a very poor family, was exposed during childhood of the humiliation by others, and many other things which I will not tell youshe changed her life through positive thinking, which has become a creature of her life (you can do some reading of her book where it says a lot about the way of this change.) And everything that she has managed to achieve, Louise Hay, reached without assistance through the active application of learned and even improved method of positive thinking, which is based on its unique affirmations. The woman regained her ruined health (got rid of the cancer of the uterus without medication and operations, but only the power of thought) and established her own destiny!
Another important note. Affirmations can change your life, so first of all, think about it, whether to change the life that you have now. As the saying goes, do not fix what is not broken. If you've decided that you need a change, as the air, then go ahead. We expect great things.
Saying the affirmations is an effective way to achieve the goals, happiness, love, harmony, health and well-being. Work with them every day, saying them aloud or silently, and the result will not wait!
One last tip before you start using affirmations, ask for forgiveness from yourself and your body for what was previously thought about someone (especially you) badly, for having experienced negative emotions, and promise yourself with this time to think and speak only positive. And follow that promise
When your life will be filled with nothing but positive thoughts, feelings and emotions that come along with them and remain with you forever peace, understanding, empathy, the ability to forgive and most importantly - love.
I wish you learn to see the good in everything with what you meet, and believe me, the world will respond in kind. Positive thoughts will be the light to guide you through life and will open all the doors in front of you.
She does not depend on age, passport or certificate. It is possible in 15 years to win the European Championshipor you can in 25 - to sit on the neck of the parents. So instead of waiting for some kind of offensive magic hour, after which you will become independent woman - studing these text, force yourself to change, and make a choice in favor of your road.
Learn to agree
I presume you occupy a big stubbornness. If you have decided that right after the New Year you with Adam get married and go away to the Arctic - to lift the fallen penguins (they themselves can not stand up, if topple), so - so be it. And let the world does not waste time on empty persuasion, but rather help you to pack in a suitcase ipod and woolen socks.
Who are we fighting for?
With the senseless obstinacy. If you take the trouble to at least five minutes to listen close, you may realize that in some ways is to agree with them. For example, in what is now the most important thing for you - study. And the Penguins and Adam can easily wait. Maybe in a couple of years, you do not want to lift the Penguins but breeding Labradors,and with Will in New Zealand.
Phrase-wand
With adults: You have convinced me. It seems so really would be better.
With her: You know, you seem to be right. I'll have to try it.
Learn how to argue
To compromise - not means being a weak-willed. Teacher loudly asserts that the chipmunk - is bird, and you're willing to nod his head, hoping for relief in the exam? Ugh, how embarrassing. But even worse, if you are in a hurry to agree with everyone just to please and get liked .
With whom are we fighting for?
With the lack of character and a tendency to grovel. Divide your inner beliefs into areas and once for all decide - what are you willing to sacrifice for the sake of others, and what - no. For example, no one will ever convince you to try drugs or steal something. This is an area of strong and unquestioning "no." In all other cases, the need to make a decision is based on the situation.
Bonus:
A person who knows how to be calm, firm and arguments to say "no" - it's a strong person. Such a man nowhere will be scared, want to be friends with and are afraid of enmity. Spineless sycophants slide in a dark corner. But bear in mind - the art of saying "no" to train better not on your grandmother who asks you to take out the trash, but on the friend, offering to smoke, "one such magical marijuana from Jamaica."
Phrase-wand
With adults: Sorry, but this is against my principles!
With your: Smart people do not do that.
Learn to recognize the errors
Not mistaken only one who does not do anything. All fail from time to time tasks, break the rules, disrupt the timing and do not hear the alarm.There is nothing wrong with errors. Bad if you're acting like a dopey kid who tries to blame the broken cup, and eaten jam on the innocent cat.
With whom are we fighting for?
With cowardice.
Bonus:
If you itself without waiting for debriefing, say that was mistaken, no one will trample you underfoot. You probably even scold no one will. Because people who recognize their mistakes are the only strong and upright men. And there are always respected by all. The main thing - do not forget to fix your own fault. Who broken a vase, is the one who sweeps up the pieces.
-Phrase-wand:
With adults: Sorry, but it seems that all I brought. What can I do to make as soon as possible to rectify the situation?
With your: I'm sorry, I did not mean it, I promise. Let's try to fix it?
Pimp optimism
No one likes moaners and pessimists, . You would take in exploration (to the team, to work) a person who drags everyone behind, afraid of challenges and moreover hoots like an old gloomy owl, that all is lost?
With whom are we fighting for?
With blues and laziness. Just do not stick humus - from optimism to enthusiastic idiocy If you and your friends get lost in the woods, do not rapidly be glad that you can make some glamorous skirts of mugs and get acquainted with a snow man. Tell better to everyone not to panic, change the shoes (dry and wet socks needles spoil strayed karma) and look at the north side of trees. The idea is that it should be covered with moss. In the meantime, people having fun, call the Ministry of Emergency Situations and calls the professional reinforcement.
Bonus:
Optimistic, confident person automatically becomes a leader in any company.
Phrase-wand:
With adults: I love challenges. They encourage me.
With your: Come on, everything will be fine! I know how to handle the situation!
What will help you quickly become an independent?
1. Foreign languages.
Bison them, and even better - love. A man who simply says at least one foreign language - is the embodiment of freedom and independence. You will not get lost in any country of the world, read more books (translated by no means the best), you will have advantages in hiring and in the choice of the gentleman.
2. Travel.
Buy a ticket at a travel agency can anyone. Learn how to plan your trip by yourself - choose the route yourelf, order tickets and book hotels, chooses travel, country and city. You do not notice how you will visit entire planet, make a bunch of friends and a million precious memories.
3. Internet.
There are not only the horoscope, diet and abstracts. Internet - it's your personal freedom - the freedom to buy, to vote, to travel, to believe. Make your site, start your own blog - and not full of stupid hearts and syusyami about Tokio Hotel, but a real, serious. Try to convince the thousands of people that you are serious, adult, and you have something to say to the world. It may well be that the world will indeed be interesting to listen to you.
4. Work
No matter - the pizza, the waitress, the courier, Jr. Assistant Secretary. At your age, any job - is important and honorable, because - first in life. Believe me, the need to perform adult responsibilities and adapt to the team quickly will be deprive you of infantile quirks.
I myself!
1. Responsibilities.
Own responsibilities that everyone has an independent and an adult. For example, shift on your fragile shoulders all invoices that come to your home. If you do not trust the money and important forms? By the way, this is a very sad occasion for thinking.
2. Money.
Establish usually defer 10% of any amount in the precious envelope. No matter - this is permanent or casual earnings 500 dollars donated by your aunt about passing the exam or little thing you are given out to pocket expenses. The main thing - 10% should go to the stash. If you do not have the courage to gut the envelope for a year, you'll get a major award - out of nowhere a substantial sum that can be spent on all sorts of joyous frenzy. And, of course, the title of the Most Intelligent and Independent in the World Girl.
3. Pet.
Again, it does not matter - to whom exactly do you bring down a wave of tenderness,
responsibility and care. Hamster, puppy, baby brother, cactus named Athanasius - all of them wither without your help and warmth. Nothing makes a man independent as quickly as the need every day - regardless of the mood and the weather - take out, bring water or filtered water thoroughly someone young and defenseless.
Forget about the recent rebellion of feminism - women wearing bags, pay for them at the cafe, open doors for them, protect them, take on their issues.
Maybe you'll understand why all this and why it is are you when the thousandth time you come home, and then all the way comfortable, towelies of yours different colors in the bathroom, and there is a plate with dinner. Maybe when everything will slip out of the hands - work, business, friends, but she - your good, will be next to you every day - kissing the hands, curling up at your feet, and laying your head telling you that you are the best. And, maybe, when you see how much health and nerves, she lost while wearing under the heart your child, or when, after hours of 12-16-20 in the throes of childbirthshe will give you an heir.
Be kinder to her.
Stop wag her nerves with your pride, man's logic, strength of character. Call her. Especially when you had a fight, call her. If you only saw her crying bitterly after you threw up, slammed the door. No, not that beautiful she cries, like in the movies shown in the pillow and quietly. She weeps bitterly, wiping tears from ugly, swollen, red face. She can be heard on the street, in a neighboring apartment. She howls in pain, which causes her to you. Call her back, come. Grab her up and take out of this misery, as from a fire in the fire.
Earnestly desire her.
Passionately, violently, furiously. Beat your fists on the wall, stomp the feet, smash everything around. Just never tell her that she is to blame for this. Do not reproach her, do not blame her. Better to let the 'one goat that looked at her "will be wrong. But it is for you to let remains saint. Believe me, if she wants to change,
she will change, and you will not know. But if you paid attention, she did it on purpose. What would be at least as you showed to her that you are jealous, and thus love, appreciate and are afraid to lose her. Then she hesitated, in herself, in your feelings. Means that she is afraid for your relations.
Tell her more about it. Say that she is your all, that you are in heaven with her.
Let this be in cinematic pretense, so be it. Speak! If all of a sudden her will not be next day. But someday it will not. After all, all of us are not ever.
Life, is very brief, so unpredictable, can end in an instant. So, if it will not be tomorrow, you will never get the chance to tell her everything. Tell me, dear, tell. Promise does not feel sorry for the promises and do not be afraid to cheat.
She is so happy when hears promises, while dreaming, hoping for something very good. She's so beautiful in that moment, so she's ...
Does not she deserve it? Yes, even if you will leave the day after tomorrow, is not it all worth the fifteen minutes when you were lying holding each other , and dreaming of your beautiful future! Worth it! Every second is worth it! Because there is so little such seconds in our lives .
Are you , in fact so ugly? Of course not! And now we'll know why.
